Don't try to come to middle ground by playing the victim… it is a choice period you become addicted after you at some point make the decision to self harm
No you choose to do it. I'm sorry but I was also a drug addict and I choose to stuff cocaine up my nose. Just like I chose to hurt myself. You choose to do it addicted or not. To say you don't is a cop out.
The pain I the emotional state of self harm is so fucking mad, if your raped and stabbed, that stab feels like the end to the rape, so the stab is a good thing, so you try it again, and again
It's called SELF harm for a reason, because you chose to hurt YOUR self, no one forced you to cut, YOU choose to cut, or any other form of self harm, it's YOUR choice to do the damage, no one is holding your hand and forcing you to do any self harm. You can't blame self harm on any one else except for the one who is SELF harming.
I'm done you refuse to accept any responsibility and that is going to keep you chained to your addiction
I smoke on a daily basis. I get a craving every so often. Sometimes, I give in, sometimes I don't. It makes me feel better but I do form a tolerance for it. No hit will compare to my first. But all that aside, I can stop. I have actually lit up a cig, taken 1 or 2 puffs, and toss it. I'll regret it later, but the fact that I can do that makes me feel great. I'm in control of myself. The stuff I do doesn't control me. So why do you let your own addictions control you?
? Agreed billings and war king. And especially billings. Once you take and accept responsibility for your own actions and your own life you get better. Until then, you just sit in your shit blaming the world for why you're fucked up.
It's the fucking emotional pain that Leeds to non stop self harm and eventually suicide, not addiction or physical, it's the mental state, if you are fucked about all you life..... You are going to be hating your self forever more, you won't jut stop hatin your self, you won't even start to like you self, it's not a physical thing, don't link it to smoking or anything like that
Agreed red. Yes self harm has a addiction component...but it's a choice. Just like doing drugs is a choice, or drinking, or smoking. All addictive. And all a choice.
Kath did you read anything I wrote? Maybe you should. Because I no longer hurt myself even though I used to. You don't have to be locked in it forever.
And all a choice to start with, not to end, am I going to have to put some stages into this so people actually understand me???????
Smoking isn't just a physical addiction. It's psychological. You can take it to get rid of your problems, 1-2-3, they're gone. Did you solve them? No, they're still there. But you associate it with stress relief so you smoke whenever you're stressed. And it is a big deal, don't act like it's not. What you need to do is stop coming up with excuses and accept responsibility for your own actions.
Kath...seriously. Read what I wrote. Because in all honesty it's a choice all the way through. You have a choice. Period. And no ones going to understand you because it's a choice.
But I know at least 7 people who have been/are in this forever, and yes, I'm getting angry, yes I'll probably be told to shut up, yes, I am one of those 7, wow, shit I'm so fucking scared to say it, and I do, but I also help others like me to become not me, that doesn't mean I not one
Starving myself was a choice. Hurting myself for 11 years was a choice. Snorting any stimulant like substance was a choice. Doing anything to get me out of myself was a choice. Period. Whether you choose to believe that for yourself okay. But honestly until you accept responsibility for your own stuff it's never going to go away. Just saying.
My life is fucked up, so what? I have a life, yes, but I can't live it, I will post the reasons for self harm later today, see if anyone fucking believes me
Your choice to stay in it forever truth. I have friends who have died from their drug addictions, they had a choice.