I don't believe in the idea of "true love"....like fairytale type stuff. Unconditional love is reserved for my kids. I'd die for them. I love them no matter what they do. A man? Meh.....he leaves the toilet seat up and the love is gone at 2am when I pee. But seriously...I like the idea of love, but I am not sure I believe it is real.
I'm there with you Liz. How do you know what love is? How can you define love? Love is a good dream that eventually you'll wake up from.
I strongly believe in true love. Although, that doesn't mean I believe in fairy tales. No relationship is going to be 100% perfect all the time. That's why I absolutely agree with Gnomey when she says that all forms of love together make up "TRUE" love. In order for a relationship to last, you must have that friendship. You've got to love each other unconditionally. You've got to have that incredibly close love like that of family. And Eros has definitely got an active part in true love, because you've got to be attracted to your partner
I suppose the problem these days is "love" is a two-way street. BOTH parties have to feel the same and have the same idea of what love is. Because it is a two-way street, it requires a levelof trust most aren't willing to give. Given all of these variables, I'd say love is fleeting and rarely lifelong.
Going by that logic you're technically saying love is based on compromising and dealing with each others flaws. Which is an important aspect of a relationship seeing as no relationship is perfect.
I think that when two people stop thinking about themselves as individuals in a relationship, and as more of one unit with both sides catering to the needs of the other then it's not so hard to make things work. True love isn't fleeting. If you truly love each other, then you'll try to make it work at all costs.
Agreed. The problem lies in the fact that one cannot control how their partner reacts to certain events....or to anything. Some people are higher maintenance for attention than others, some require more physical interaction, some need other things. My point is, finding the person that you are willing to overlook things for and compromise for is hard and sucks and what love is based on.....imo. You might feel these things for someone and they not you...unrequited. So that isn't true love.....or is it? I have thought a lot about this subject. From the outside looking in, situations may seem loving or true love. On the inside things are often a mess. Who is to say that Poe's cousin/wife even understood what was happening? One argument could be made that she was young, vulnerable, and he took advantage of that. For me personally, love is a nice fairy tale. Nothing more. Romantic love that is. The love for my kids? Well, that is different altogether.
The definition of love is. Love is something that creates a bond between two people and it tells them that he or she is right. Love is something that should not be used to get fun it must be something that must be eternal that is what true love is a