I used to be a shy introvert kid during my school days and got bullied some times but I realised before high school you need to stand up for yourself.You can't just let the people slide or they will start skating.I started working out and joined some taekwondo classes.Learned the basic punches and stances before that.Welp try to go the right way and talk to authorities and avoid violence if you can.But at times you will need to fight. REMEMBER ONE THING WHEN THERE'S GROUP OF THEM GANGING UP ON YOU.FIND THE BIGGEST ONE OF THEM AND HIT HIM/HER RIGHT IN FACE WITH ALL YOU HAVE GOT.REST WILL BACK OFF ON THEIR OWN.welp life isn't like movies so yeah numbers matter and you might be beaten up but fighting is always better than getting bullied unless you can avoid both.Human body is quite a weapon if you know how to use it.
When I was about his age I was also a target because I was smaller than everybody else. Honestly, I don’t condone violence but...the only way I got out of it was fighting back. It did get me suspended because I never reported the bullying so it looked like I started a fight. In a snack wrap, fighting back made it stop.
I suspect that some of these people are lying about fighting and or have had very few fights in their life. I was suspended often for fighting in school... it should NEVER be the first option and is rarely worth it.
Contact respective authorities and ask for a stern action. Stern because reproving does not always bring bullies on the right track, and fear makes them realise that they are doing something wrong. Sometimes people should be made to realise that actions have consequences. As for the bullied, confidence matters. Lack of self-belief, inferiority complex, helplessness, hopelessness, anxiety, excessive submissive behaviour, and other personality vices can result in/from getting bullied. So you have to pay attention to how you are moulding your child's personality. Also, a child might develop a cynical and nihilistic perspective, in future. I think this can be avoided if a child is provided with an optimum pampered environment. You, as a parent, are your child's best support, and they count on you for everything, including protection. I, as a child, felt invincible when my parents were standing behind me. That being said, there are times when you have to let your child face things alone; not bullying of course, but other experiences. Be there for your child, even if things don't work out and authorities don't take actions against bullying. More than their actions, it is your support that matters. Your child would grow up, bullies would grow up, some of them would give up on bullying and realise they did something wrong, some of them would go on to become something worse, but your grown up child would be left with his experience and how much courage they mustered in tough times, even if things did not work out back then. Give your child inspirational memories, because I still imbibe strength from them. All the best with parenting.
I believe people besides me have been in fights. Some of them have been in more fights than me... typically those persons are also professional competitive fighters as throughout middle school and high school I competed on a varsity level in wrestling. I can almost answer for every professional fighter when I say... most people that have fought on a regular basis at some point in their lives avoid a fight if at all possible that has nothing to do with sport. I’m going to take this further and say when you realize that one of your punches can actually kill someone, you think before you swing. Digest that one for a second.
Rarely worth it? Come again? I feel like you just wanna put it out there that you kept getting suspended for fighting. Here’s a cookie
No. Not at all. I want her to be able to give her son good advice. “YOU HAVE TO FIGHT” IS NOT GOOD ADVICE especially if he is untrained and it isn’t necessary. I am not sure of the level of bullying he is going through so no way would I ever jump straight to that... besides you’re telling a child or minor to attack another children or minors. Dude... think about that for a second.
Listen idk where kiti comes from but where I come from fighting is the only option or mfs won’t leave you alone
I’m sorry you were so out of touch with your environment growing up that you felt this way. I can verify very thoroughly where I am from. It is arguably one of the most dangerous cities in America fam and in the classrooms students didn’t give a fucc and we didn’t even all have books... shiddd sometimes we didn’t have heat. We all have to grow up at some point famo.
I don't think anyone is saying for her child to go attack his bullies like a wild animal, but if they're physically bullying him and if they throw the first punch, he has every right to defend himself and fight back.
You obviously didn’t read all of my responses. I said I think self defense classes could be ok. I am simply stating that fighting should be near the last resort of options, not the first or end all be all solution. I am being very clear. We don’t know if he is being physically assaulted or not from what has been said.
I too also live(d) in one of the most dangerous cities in America and a poor school district. We can go back and forth all day about this I’m not at all impressed nor is this anything new. But I grew up and the only fighting I do is in the military.
tbh lol i tried to fight my racist bullies in elementary but ended up getting my ass beat this was after i tried to tell the school/my parents about it but they all told me to just ignore it but its literally impossible to ignore someone screaming racial slurs at you or attempting to set your hair on fire lol. the bullying stopped until i stopped going to school for a bit after getting suspended and losing the fight then ended up dropping out all together. its not that easy idk why everyone’s making it seem like thats the only way, it is an option. Just not a very good one imo.
No; I've read all of your responses, and you're acting like folks are saying to blindly attack the moment they see their bully. Which I don't think is the case. I'm not going to argue with you. ?
Where I’m from you get punched in the chest for being on some búllshít (talking out ya ass), being fake/phony, or not coming correct in general... not as a threat or to beat you down... but to build you up... (that’s the homies to give you a reality check) check you... put you in the right mind frame before you (wreck yourself) and go out into the real world doing stupid shít (like a sucka). Needless to say I wasn’t checked very often. ...and some of you trying to come on the street tip wit it sound like you spent most of your nights as a teenager in the house cause that is not how shít goes down at all and will get you fucced the fucc up real quick.
Although we don’t often agree, this is absolutely horrible. I am truly sorry you went through that. I never had to deal with bullying to that extent. No one ever tried to set my hair on fire. If what you say is true that is fucced up and makes my blood boil that people would do that to you. With that said... This is not a Chuck Norris, Bruce Lee, Jackie Chan, Jet Li etc... movie or the Karate Kid... tf is y’all on. This is someones real life. Some of these responses are so short sighted.
Nothing new. Not impressed. Back on topic, kiti you have stories/outcomes from past victims. At the end of the day, your opinion/decision is the only one that counts.
I’m not off topic and not attempting to give anything new or impress anyone. I am unimpressed by you atm. I am giving an honest opinion. My opinion was attacked... I defended it, and obviously, so well, that people felt somehow wronged by my answer that fighting shouldn’t be near the forefront of solutions. I am sorry that my honesty hurts people’s egos so much. Multiple people bashed my point of view. I feel like I was able to adapt to each response appropriately... and never once did I feel so ganged up on that I thought... maybe if I punch them... they’ll leave me alone.