^Exactly. There's no winning. And pple ask to touch my hair all the time, it's curly, they ask me what I do to it. Is that bc I'm white?
Mandibles you sound so stupid ? I have natural curly and I'm black and I have some white friends with natural curly hair...so what's your point
I used to have a shirt by one of my favorite bands that said "Jesus is a Cunt" (word starts with a "c")
There's a difference when they ask to touch your hair because they think it's pretty.. When they ask a black girl, it's MOSTLY meant in a way to like see if it's real or not. Not all the time, but people touch my hair cause it's always soft and pretty. (I'm African American btw) and I don't wear weave. But it's not always that case.
It's not stupidity. It's sarcasm. People are always gonna pick on the race card. Just can't let it bother you. I was the only white girl living in an all black neighborhood once. Racism is everywhere.
I usually go out of my way to make comments that make people feel uncomfortable so thank you for this thread. Makes my job easier
Wasn't comparing white people to nazis. I was saying maybe people the nazi idea of striving for a supreme race is unfathomable when often times white people are championed over other races. We're just not actively killing other races like they did. So that statement was about all people not one race. The part about my hair was personal Mandi. I never said it had it had to with me being black. But it is something that bothers me because it makes rather self conscious since people are constantly criticizing and scrutinizing my hair. You may not view it as a problem. But it is a problem for me. I also addressed nappy hair, and perming and weaves vs natural which is indeed a black issue. While touching my hair might not be a singularly black thing, the strange fascination with my black coarse Afro like it's an alien thing is definitely a black thing.
I understand people have preferences, but you can't help but get a little upset when someone says "Sorry, I don't date darker chicks." Or "I only date white girls." Then they add "'not being racist" or "no offense." How am not supposed to not take slight offense to that? You basically just told me that because my skin is a certain color, you won't give me, or anyone my color, a chance.
Everyone worries about something, my thing just happens to be racism. But then again I'm naturally sensitive, so I get worried/bothered more easily that most people know. I'm working on it.
So does that mean I'm supposed to take offense when a black woman says they don't find white people attractive? that's the stupidest thing to bitch about. Just get over it. You're not a match for that person.
Re: Racial Rantb The only way to explain this is to watch pleasantville. Just like when you introduce a bacteria to the body it will either not kill it or kill it. We just have to also look at how the mind is structured. Just for example there was an episode of twilight zone where the power went out on one street. Just one and by the end of the night they were killing each other.️We have to look at Lord of the Flies. It's not about racism. Yes sure someone might call you BLAH blur but it's just all about psychosis. Africans kill Africans from different tribes before they knew another color even existed. Chinese slaughter Chinese children. You see? It's the mental barriers we create. Our personal/cultural prejudice not against just a certain group and ourselves. But against everyone. "I don't like Bill" 'I think bills a swell guy. Why don't you like him he's new....' "I don't know. I just don't like him." ?
Thank you Apples. I understand people have preferences but no one turns down a girl they've shown interest in because she has dreads, or red hair or freckles or a mole. "I'm sorry... You're a great girl but I don't date girls with moles." What? Wouldn't you be offended? I mean at least just say no. Just say you're not interested. Nothing else.
It's the same for everyone T. When I hear someone black telling a white person they won't date them because of their skin color, I get equally as pissed. Also, it has nothing to do with not being that persons match. I understand being incompatible. The fact that someone thinks that they're incompatible with someone just because they have darker or lighter skin is what irritates me.
Well maybe you don't take offense to it. I do. I honestly think you should just say no. But if you don't care, okay. I'll work on building a tougher exterior.
There's nothing to get pissed about. Let's take skin color away from it. It could be the same as a chick saying she won't date a guy cause she has tattoos. If it's not their preference it's not their preference. There's no need to get mad over that. Just move the hell on.
First I want to address the fact that I'm tired of being called black, or African American. We don't call while folk European American. I'm brown hun I'm a steamy crisp hot cocoa and I flaunt it. I'm in a unofficial relationship with a white male whom is racist against his own kind. As am I. It's not all... just the one's that sit on their ass rather than get a job. Who'd rather not prove people wrong. The ones who think being ghetto, having gangs, selling drugs, trickin, and etc. Is how we're supposed to live. I highly dislike the ignorance in these particular people. As generations continue they want to make it in things such a hair styling, football, basketball, selling drugs, or just living off the government. That's not right... there are other things we're good at yet they take the easy way. I'm tired of people saying the same thing they say to you... "I've never been with a black girl..." I just reply well your not going to start today bye. Cause that's an immediate turn off... my hair, it's thick but not nappy. I just throw on my blue or pink cosplay wig and call it a day. My hair is shoulder length but I hate it. The fact that white people took over the native lands and added all this crap that's killing us... kills me. I find it funny. Don't bother complaining anymore. Won't change things. Can't even hold my phone to my ear, have it on my hip, or in my bra, with fear that I'll contract cancer. I don't even want a phone I'm against technology because you never meet people anymore, get out and do something.. but can't get rid of this because everything is done with technology. Applications aren't on paper now. Gotta do applications online, so gotta buy internet, how do I get internet without a job (I have one; self employed with my sisters help). Right you can't... anyways back to the racist thing. Plus teachers are making just as much as people who work at McDonald's around here, it's pathetic. Hospital workers don't make much here either. Can't wait to move but idk how I'd adjust to new working conditions, and their communities, school, prices. Whatever... gotta pay 25 dollars for diapers... 100+ on baby formula just one can... how in the heck am I supposed to afford that plus rent and electricity. Then car payments gotta let stuff go just to raise a baby here. It's crap, it really is. Can't afford to live... so you're hardly living at all... Why stress over it anymore. I discriminate a lot. Against people who think I have to be a basic *****. Sorry but I refuse to get with an abusive African male. Not saying they all are, just the one's here they'll disrespect you so bad they'll literally throw trash in your face even if you're not together. I know white men are abusive too, but that's why I pick ones around my size cause I'll fight back, he'll have a lamp to his head if he ever puts his hands on me ? unless it's a spank of course. ? I don't like how people discriminate, but like I said I do it to. As long as people are going to act the way they do I will always feel this way. I was jumped all through elementary, middle, and high school because I wasn't black enough... chased down in cars, whilst on foot. I've been through it all. But I'm still living because I can't and won't change for anyone. I may be "black" but I'm beautiful. I may not be black enough... but who said I'm trying. I may not be into all black males, but it's hard to change your preference after seeing the things I saw. A black male crazy enough to kill my grandmother and get away with it then smile in my face. All because she was going to leave him. Yea... it's hard out here. Not saying they're all bad but in this location I will not date a black male. They're all psychopaths. ? put me in the city please. Valley small town girl, country living is not for me. Just ignore the folk who try to put you down I go through the same stuff and I'm a "light skin" not feeling like you're pretty enough because they'd rather go for dark skin or yellow belly here. It ain't nothing but a hair flip. I gave up wondering why white people rule the world. I gave up caring, because either way we'll all die, so why wonder when you can live. If you don't have a kid, and don't gotta man, go travel the world, maybe he's out there waiting. Wish I could do it but I have a kid and my unofficial relationship. That we both want cause we're moving slow.