Circle of life.... Nice guys want nice girls. Nice girls want assholes. Nice guys become assholes. Asshole guys turn nice girls into bitches. ........
The best way to do it is find a nice girl who just got dumped by an A-hole and be there for her. She will most likely give you a chance since you were so nice to her, and that's when you treat her like a perfect princess by day and a dirty delinquint by night (if you know what I mean) she will most likely never date an A-hole again.
"at an age where you deal with things on an attractiveness level?" um... Isn't this always the case? You should be attracted to whoever you're dating. Call me shallow, but looks matter. If you're not physically attracted to someone, you aren't going to want to date them, regardless of personality. That being said, personality does matter, but that is part of being physically attracted to someone. Outward appearance draws you in, but personality is what keeps you there. You just have to find someone who you are attracted to on every level. Girls aren't always attracted to jerks. My boyfriend is a total romantic, nerdy sweetheart. Remember, you have to kiss some frogs before you find your prince.
It's the fact that he makes girls feel special, when in reality they're just another girl he flirted endlessly with. My best friend and I. He moved to Australia, but we still talk every day.
For alot of people LOOKS are what lure people in, PERSONALITY is what makes them stay. And honestly I think personality can make an "average" person beautiful. Besides telling someone "look if you wanna get someone you gotta look better than that." Is ridiculous, that's making them insecure of who they are, and then they're going to think that there's something wrong with them And try to change themselves from what was already amazing in the first place to someone that's not even them. Which leads to one of my favorite quotes. "I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I'm not." Because atleast I'm myself, and someone is eventually going to realize how beautiful I am just the way I am. Rather than being what someone else wants, now they don't even like you, they like who they THINK is you. Moral of the story: just be yourself, sure you can give yourself a makeover, get some new contacts, pull your hair back or something to reveal all the concealed beauty, but let people fall for the real you. Because they'll find you as everything they want and it's who you are. And I think that's pretty cool
I seem to be attracted to the guys who need to be "fixed" too When I met my current boyfriend, he seemed alright. A few months in, I realized he was screwed up... Majorly (drugs and abusive) what a jerk. My Friends and family hated him, told me people dont change/ can't be fixed. 5 long years later, (After being his lawyer, chef, and caregiver) he changed. He's as perfect as a guy is going to get. Now my friends approve, and my family love when I bring him over. (in October will be our 6 yr anniversary) No my boyfriend doesn't come from money, and he's not the hottest thing out there... So the answer to your original post; I think myself, and other girls out there choose to be with jerks because we think we can change people for the better. Many people will say you can't, but give it the time and love and you may. As for dating younger, I've never done that. There's nothing wrong with it though. I think 1 month - 1 year younger is normal.
When I think of a dream girl, I think of a girl I can connect with, I think of somebody who I can wake up, roll over, and see every morning. Now personally, I like to think of my dream girl as a person who I will not PUKE on every time I see them.. And I know who is reading this will laugh at me saying this -_- But anyway, my dream girl is a girl I am compatible with, someone who can make me laugh, smile, forgive, and forget with. Any girl who makes me a better person is a girl I think deserves a chance to get whatever she wants. Personality is a key factor in any relationship based on the fact alone, you can date the hottest girl in the WORLD, but man, if she acts like the girl from the music video, "Roses - By OutKast" no way, I am not dealing with that.. I would rather deal with the girl from the song, Vanilla Twilight - Owl City. "The spaces between my fingers are where yours fit perfectly." Dream girl = Personality and looks. Personality, so you can fall in love with them over and over, in more ways than one.. Looks, so you have a pretty face to look forward to seeing when you get home from work, or school, or practice. Anybody who makes you happy, regardless of how they look, or how they act, is someone's dream girl.
Well, me, being a guy, I have dated older girls. They didn't seem to mind. Well, one did. But you know, I act maturely. So for the age, I think it depends on the person, or maturity of the younger one. As for the being attracted to jerks, it's simply a teenage thing in my opinion. I never see a grown woman into jerks. And any girls over the age of 15 I know are usually looking for nice guys. Some exceptions. So we could argue about this, but there really is no answer. I personally gave up, because I was too nice for the dating world and got rejected for it. But as soon as I gave up, and acted like I didn't care, I got interest. It's confusing to me. I want answers too, to be honest. I am still not dating to this day. I'm more studying the mannerisms of it. I have gotten to some places, but this mystery has yet to be solved.