Ok, whether you're legitly serious or not I'm still iffy about, but.... You need professional help if you're serious about changing and improving your life. Doesn't matter what your mom's reaction will be or your dad's. Just do it. Tell her you'll even go to the appointments by yourself or with your grandmother. If your mom cares, she'd agree and go for it. You kinda need to grow a backbone and do it or else it'll never be fond until years later. And when you do get professional counseling, not the mediocre shit they have at schools nowadays, make sure it's the same gender. There's nothing wring with male therapists and female patients, but I've read and heard that having same gender therapists aids your progress greatly, especially if the opposite sex traumatized you in any way. Don't resort to antidepressants just because you can, like faith whatsherface said. Leave those as a last resort if you find you're not ready to deal with you mr issues "sober" just yet. Faith, if you're going to recommend something, make sure it's a sound claim and that your literacy in your writing backs up your credibility, which in this case, it doesn't appear to be. Seriously. Go look for a good therapist, even of it takes a couple of tries. You'll find the right one that makes you understand things and such. Not all of them suck like DMA claims. And sure, writing and drawing helps, but if it's chronic, it won't be sufficient enough. And I know all of these from experiences and because I'm majoring in psychology, so yes, I know what I'm talking about.
Therapy doesn't help, they did shit for me. Helped nothing and only only pissed me off more. Goldi, any way we can talk besides here? Since your silenced and all.
Then you probably didn't good a very good therapists. Just like in any occupation, there are mediocre workers and legit professional workers. It's not black or white like you're painting it out to be. So it didn't work for you, who's to say it won't work for others?
Please do not take antidepressants. My Bestfriend of 7 years just began taking them and it's affecting her life critically. I can help you , through moral and mental support through pm. I can't tell you you're going to be perfect, but I guess it's worth a shot.
Medication affects different people in different ways. Just because they turned out not so great for someone else doesn't mean the same thing will happen to you. I think Des said the right thing when she said to seek proper help. I guess it's useful to hear about other people's experiences but the same experience will not necessarily apply to you. And it's pretty easy to see that some people are quite biased based on what happened to them. Don't let peope sway you with 'Medication is HORRIBLE because it messed up my whole life...' or 'Therapy made it WORSE!' because you don't know about their own individual experiences - there might have been other contributing factors to them feeling worse rather than the medication or therapy. Plus, like I said before, different people, different reactions. Sorry for the loooong message and good luck with whatever you choose.
Tbh, I won't be much help as I have a similar problem, but check out a band called MCR. They're incredibly inspirational and have helped me through a **** load. :3 I've found music and writing has helped me, and might be the same for you.
this advice about not taking anti depressants is seriously flawed you are seriously stupid giving advice like that if a DOCTOR prescribes you medication it's not because he/she feels like it it's because after years of schooling to be become a doctor they have decided the best treatment is medication
as i also stated earlier in this thread the first,second or third medication might not work but the doctor will work towards finding the best medication for you
7th grade sucked for me and I know what you mean by the mom thing my mum does the same thing .. But on diff cases I recommend therapy... You have alot of build up anger that you need to release that doesn't mean swearing tho haha hope I helped
Yeah, I'm planning on consulting with my counselor and getting a few knots sorted out before seeking a professional therapist. I might get the medication, but will only do them when everything hits rock bottom... Which doesn't happen too much. Long walks too! I was just confused on how to handle all the steps. I don't think calling an American suicide hotline will help, and I'm not familiarized with Chinese ones (if they even have any in China). I might also go on the internet to those forums whose topics are related to depression once I'm not a completely shy asshole. :0
Of course you would be shy ... You're not used to showing ... Emotion ... Like deep emotion give it a try your parents will accept you. Hope this helps you out Hun. If you want to talk unblock me