??? So a parent is the only influence to their child...? And also, I’m not a parent, so why would I claim to know about it? I didn’t attack you. Spoke my mind. Instead of throwing garbage shade, reply with something that has to either agree or disagree with what I said.
Okay so all in all, a good parent knows everything about their child, and a bad parent doesn’t is what you’re saying? Asking because I don’t want to assume. But I like this. I agree for the most part. I’m not a parent so I can’t relate entirely, but thank you for your input.
Sorta, sometimes bad parents know everything but fail to act. If they are to self absorbed in their own life things fall through the cracks. Or some absolutely terrible parents just don't care, they figure their kids will figure everything out for themselves. That plan hardly ever works out. Kids need guidance.
This comment makes no sense. Parents arent the only influence in a kid's life. That is a fact. How is that knowing everything about parenthood?
People like him/her fail to read properly and understand context or are completely opinionated and make absolutely no sense whatsoever when they speak. Annoying af
It’s a tough one ? I’ve worked with children who have serious mental health issues but their parents have tried to block it out to avoid dealing with any ‘labelling’. I think talking to the child is probably one of the best things to do and understanding they do need their personal and private space. It’s not a matter of showing them you’re always available for a discussion because some kids are hella awkward around adults and find it difficult to explain stuff. It could even be listening discreetly to them as they play with their toys, or encourage them to be open with their friends and siblings. I’ve tried this technique with kids I’ve taught and it’s worked well in raising any alarming issues as sometimes a child’s friends will worry about a certain thing that has been said and (hopefully) tell an adult! As a few people have already said, parents should know their child inside and out. It doesn’t make you a bad parent if you don’t fully understand your child’s mind because it’s a world of imagination and creativity that’s still developing but if anything unusual or concerning crops up, then you know. I’m not a parent but as a trainee teacher, I do get a similar gut instinct ??♀️.
Be frank with them and don't put all of your dreams and hopes that you could never achieve in your life on your child. Your child is another human and will have a different set of goals and talents and be supportive towards the child no matter what. Try to help him/her try to notice any change in the behaviour. attend the parents teachers meetings and see if the teacher is giving the kid marks coz the kid is working hard or coz you are bothering the teachers a lot. On the whole give the child some space but at the same time be involved with the child and not leave the child alone. If your child is depressed know that it's not a disease and treat him/her like the other kids as well and know that someone who is depressed isn't jist feeling sad and there's a lot of things going on with the person walking, bathing and eating and even little things become a great mission to accomplish and it's very hard to just stay alive and survive for the person at that point. so Be there for the child.
What I would say if for the child to know they can go to their parent for anything and there was will no judgement on the parents behalf. Then it’s the kids choice whether they want to talk to the parent about their issues etc. You should never force anyone to speak about a sensitive topic or snoop around reading personal stuff (like diaries) because that breaks the trust within your relationship. If the parent is a pillar in the child’s life where the parent is always there for them no matter what, provided advice, love and no judgement. Then I cant see anything else they can do, it’s down the child what they wanna do
I'm no parent but here are some points I thought of that might help parents out there with regards to their children's mental state. 1. Learn to listen and be sensitive. Children normally open up to their parents, at a young age they already know how to tell you that "Big bro ate my food... Mameh wants me sleep but I don't wanna", typical kids probz. As they grow old, parents should also know how to listen and not put up side comments like "Why are you even problematic about that?/That's nothing compared to my problems when I was your age./That should be easy to solve for you, you're mature enough." This is just one of the reasons why your child would gradually drift away from you regarding on solving their problems. Listen to them and be sensitive about the advices you give to them. 2. Make them feel free about their goals in life. You may not know but maybe their state of mind is becoming derailed because of you (a parent) being too much of a pushover. Do not force your children to be an engineer if their dream is to become an accountant (or whatever course or career they want to pursue). Your children have their own mindset about what they want in life, don't let them be something they don't want and make them regret it for life. 3. Be a little touchy. Giving them a hug after they told you their problems may be embarassing to some parents but it would cheer them up from the inside. Reassure them that you are there for them in every decision they make. It would help them have a positive state of mind. 4. Don't be an all-too-serious parent. If you want them to have good mental health, humoring them and making them laugh every now and then would be helpful. It would help in strengthening your parent-child relationship. It would be easier for them to approach a parent like this than an always-serious one.
lol you’re actually pathetic. Benighted. But I can’t blame you, since you seem completely oblivious to the matter. Grow up honestly. Get out of your own head.
I mean in some cases I don’t agree with this. Because if my child was hurting and I realized it, but he/she didn’t want to talk to me about it, I’d feel obligated to not exactly force, but encourage him/her to speak to me about it. Even if they show all signs of not wanting to talk about it, I’d give em a little space for a while, and resume the process of trying to get him/her to share with me. If someone was going through serious trouble and was afraid to talk about it, but needed too, I’d want to, again not force, but edge them to speak about it.
Exactly but there’s some parent that will just and force it out of them, which just back fires and pushes the child further way. I rather my child come round on their terms and not feel pressured or forced to say anything because it can be very patronising for kids. There’s a difference
Watch some of their tones, how they react to questions about school or home. Watch their sleeping habits. It can show you if their stressed and a lot of other things. Watch the things they say to you and the type of questions they ask. Even how often they hang out with friends/ who they hang out with. Most importantly be open with them and don’t berate them for telling the truth. Then they are more likely to open up and feel like they can talk to you.