Um, I'm an American parent and I hope my American child provokes his right to disagree with me. He will be grounded until he does agree with me. Maybe some Americans ideas that it's ok to disagree with their parents is the reason teen pregnancy is on the rise in America. Just saying.....
But you got to trust your kids. They will just do it behind you back if not. I keep everything between clear and open. I trust my kids to do the right things and make the right choices because thats the way I raised them. You can't stay one thing and then end up doing another. Gotta set the example
I have a 14 yo son. Lets see how much of his raising he remembers when his little hoochie ass 15 yo girlfriend wants to shake her butt all over him. That is why it's in his best interest to AGREE with me that it's not appropriate for him to be at her house when her parents aren't home. If I don't let him get in those situations, I don't become a grandma sooner than I should. Do I trust him to turn down drugs, yes. Do I trust him to treat people with respect, yes. Do I trust him to turn down his girlfriend....HELL NO! If that makes me a bad parent, you can judge me while you are rocking your 15 year olds baby to sleep cause he/she couldn't stay up with the baby cause he/she has school tomorrow lol
Neph, let it go. Asian parents will be Asian parents. My first bf was in 7th grade and they still don't know about it to this day.
That's really not how it works in my family guys. There are no "disagreements." Your parent's word is law. No ifs, ands, or Buts. Don't like it? Too bad.
But frankly, I wouldn't change the way my parents have raised me. I turned out pretty well. Sure I didn't do much as kid, or have much But I think that my parents instilled a lot of good ideals in my head. And maybe they weren't alway the nicest folks but I sure as hell rarely disobeyed. I love when kids are oh no! I'm gonna get grounded. I'm just like oh no that grounding. If I screw up I get an ass whooping. And people wonder why I freak when I get B's on tests. Never had none of that nonsense on my report card. Can't say I've run into any trouble ever. /).(\ don't drink, don't smoke, don't party too late. I'm full as a sack of bricks and my favorite STD Free! ._. Seriously tho I need some action. J/k my family would disown me haha
Lmfao. Btw. If this sounds anymore painful, my sister is 22 and still under my parent's control. They don't give a **** if I am 18, They don't care what America has, my parents life are too sedentary to even "hang out" or talk to other people to see what is life.
You're 18 and whining because your parents have rules for you while you live under their roof and (I assume) pay for everything? Boo fucking hoo. Move out and you can have all the ? sleepovers you want. You'll also have to pay rent, buy groceries, pay bills, work possibly multiple jobs just to make ends meet...
But to be honest, I agree that when you are being to strict, like my parent, I start to do stuff behind their back since they never had any trust in me or what so ever. And it was alot
I was just going by what you said previously. Since you're younger, sorry but your parents rule the roost. When you're an adult, you can make your own decisions. I'm willing to bet you did something to lose your parents' trust, or your sister did and they're being proactive with you. And that stuff you do behind their backs? They know a lot of it, even if they never let on.
To be honest, me and my sisters never gotten to do anything in our lives. There wasnt much of hanging out with friends. My sister is a very shy person. She focus on school and doesnt have interest in relationships, so I dont know why my parents would force that on me.