I'm scared to tell my parents I'm bisexual! HELP!!

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by CallMeNoona, Nov 5, 2011.

  1. Really? I obviously meant you were the baby. For one who says I cause drama, you sure are a little troll. Now lets stop because this isn't our thread. It's Katie's and you're being disrespectful.
     
  2. "Waah waah."

    Somebody bring the baby milk!!
     
  3. Guys.... 
     
  4. Sorry Katie. As you can see, now I'm not going to resond to her. I know it's disrespectful to you-like I said in my last post.
     
  5. Chloe stop pls. Katie I wish you the best of luck and hope that these responses have helped you 

    However you choose to live is beautiful 
     
  6. =_=


    Yes Katie. I hope your parents will understand. My parents are strict against homosexuality too...
     
  7. You have closed minded parents :/ keep it in secret till you are living alone I guess
     
  8. Katie just let it out to your parents. You should say thank god made you like this etc....
     
  9. Wait is the girl you even like bisexual as well?
     
  10. I'm not sure 
     
  11. Let them catch you havin a threesome
     
  12. ew I'm like 15 you pedo
     
  13. I love how I'm the designated "coming out" advice giver. 

    Anyway, I was around 14 when I realized I was bisexual. It wasn't a phase, it wasn't something I grew out of. I am almost 22 now, and still proudly bisexual. Even just got out of a 3.5 year relationship with a woman. That woman was my best friend. (That was just for the haters saying she might grow out of it)

    I understand how scary it is, to wonder what your parents reactions will be. My dad was raised a strict Catholic, so I know exactly where you're coming from. But he had a better reaction than I expected, and he had always hated when I talked about my gay friends. He hated that in the past I had supported gay marriage. But his reaction was fairly good, considering all that.
    When I finally came out to my parents at 18 (because I wanted to date Gina) I came out to my mother first. She, along with her side of the family, are very accepting people. I was still scared though, so I wrote it all down in a letter. I was crying when I wrote it, so it was all tear stained. I quietly told her that I needed to talk to her alone, then sat with her as she read the letter. When she was done, the first thing she told me was that she loved me, and will always love me. And she accepted me for who I was.
    Later that night when my dad came home, I told him with my mom standing next to me for support. He replied with "What will this change?" I was a bit shocked at that, but I replied that I liked my friend Gina. He told me that he still loved me, an that I was 18 so he couldn't stop me from doing anything. (Like I said, better reaction than I expected from a strict Catholic ) But after time, he came to fully accept me. He loves Gina like she was his own daughter.

    Anyway, parents usually have a better reaction than you expect. You are their own flesh and blood. But remember that this is big news for them. Sometimes people can have inappropriate reactions from the shock. As much as it hurts, give them a little bit of time to come around if that happens.

    Also, read the book Crisis by Mitchell Gold. It's 40 stories about gay Americans, including prominent ones in society. Website is www.crisisbook.org Have your parents read it as well, after you tell them, whenever that is. It's a very powerful book.

    Also, do some research on your gay community. Get into some of the activities that they offer. If they have a gay community center, go sometime. It'll be good to make those connections, and get support from people who are going through the same thing as you, as well as those who have already come out. Sometimes the leaders will go with you when you tell your parents.

    If your school has a Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) go sometime.

    These connections will make you stronger, more confident, and more comfortable in who you are.

    Sorry for the extremely long post. But if you need to talk more, feelfree to follow me. Good luck hunny. And be proud in who you are.
    
     
  14. Thank You!!! 
     
  15. Yeah... I don't think I'm gonna grow out of this... 
     
  16. Of course hun. 
     
  17. I have a friend who is half jewish and half catholic (both sides very strict) and he came out just fine. you just gotta go for it!
     
  18. Ask ur parents wut they would think if u were bi
    If they ask why just said u learned about it in science,life science
     
  19. Good advice michelle and sexygoddess
    Come one Chloe
    Goddess isn't being offensive
    Her post especially said she isn't trying to be offensive
    An Katie did say she was catholic
    So it was meant for her
    Idk ur religion Chloe but if it has nothing to do with God you don't need to comment
    Good luck Katie
    May God bless you