So...if you have an unplanned pregnancy that you keep it will become a problematic unruly child. Is that your argument?
Step 1 refuse have fathers name on birth certificate then say was another guy got you preg can't force you to do DNA to prove otherwise Step 2 walk away do it alone its easier that way Step 3 have family/friend support make plans and keep them Step 4 involve police if you need to
To lethalchick. Do not EVER call an unplanned child a problematic child again. NO KID DESERVES TO BE JUDGED SIMPLY BECAUSE HIS OR HER BIRTH WAS ACCIDENTAL. If you ever said something like that to a mother face to face, I can guarantee that mother would've knocked you out! I despise people who pass judgement on an innocent child(even ones that have behavior issues) and not every unplanned pregnancy results in the child being neglected. Only someone who doesn't have kids could say something like that, and if you do have kids, I hope to goddess you don't tell your children they're "problematic kids".
There's only one baby. If he loved you and the baby he wouldn't do those things knowing it would affect you and the baby. You can do it.
I was unplanned, doesn't mean I'm problematic. Much. Every child should be treated with love and respect and affection, so don't you fucking call any kid problematic. None of them deserve to be neglected. :|
Everyone says leave him, which is what I would say, but no one has given any thought to what may happen if you did. I do agree with April, you need to contact those people if you haven't already gotten together with her about it. His aggression towards you now that you are pregnant is, more than likely, a way of him blaming you for it subconsciously. He will probably say things like, "You trapped me." or "You did this on purpose." and call you all kinds of names you don't deserve. Since he is not here to voice his side, we can only guess as to what he really thinks about the situation at hand. As far as his family goes, I don't recall anyone in history that married an entire family. Once you are with someone, he/she is really the only person you need to be happy with. Yes, families can make things a bit difficult at times and most people can't stand their in-laws, but you don't HAVE to see them either. Paternity of a child is not tested if the mother and "father", I use that term loosely, both agree that the child is theirs, even if the dad is not the father of the child (yes there is a difference). Someone said to not let him sign the birth certificate... Ok, I half agree with that statement because if you ever wanted or needed to place him on child support without his signature on the certificate, you would need an order from the court to test for paternity or from the local attorney general's office. On the other hand having his name on there would mean that if you married someone else, your child would have his last name and you would not be able to change it unless said "father" gave up all rights to the child willingly, in which case the new person you would marry would file for adoption to take over care for the child thus changing the last name legally. (At least that's how it is in Texas, may be different in other states) Whatever your decision, I hope the best for you and your little baby. Get informed and make the best decision for him/her and for yourself.
omg this is crazy , i mean how could u even live with someone who is so violence and even had a child with him? …if u had been abused go see doctors keep those medical report too it may help , get divorce with him soon if ur married if nt just leave him . u wont need such a jerk … tell ur parents , giv birth to the innocent child take good care of it , will be a hard journey but ntg is impossible especially ur parents would be there to help u tooツ
and also nvr to abort the little life inside! Its innocent even.though it came at the wrong time giv it a chance to be on this world my dear , abortion is the most cruel desicions ! The baby head will be drilled & crushed if its too big and being sucked out or being suck out by force resulting it to be in parts instead of the whole baby . Tats insane! Cruel! Dun ever think of aborting it! And also take good care of it , love the child more , dun direct ur hate of the father to the innocent child becos it came at the wrong time . Hope u can face the prob bravely with gd desicions dun make urself regret for the whole life dear
im not saying all unplanned kids end up problematic. there r higher risks for them as opposed to having a patient loving father or other family in the house. so im just saying raising a child should done carefully
Lol he can't take the baby from you until the baby gets to be 15 years old ! Or adult ! That's what all the judgements say it's in the law !
Ok, just because the baby was unplanned doesn't mean that im not going to be loving and paitent towards my child. And i5 or whatever you know your kind of annoying. Abortions should be illegal. Honestly, before abortion I would put my child up for adoption. I would never ever kill my baby. In fact, ima keep this child and I'm going to care for it, nuture, protect and do everything i can to give it the world. I'm going to put him on the birth certificate and when the baby gets here I'm going to take him to court- show all my proof & ask for his visitation to be supervised. I'm not going to keep the baby from that side of the family. But, the child will NEVER be alone with them. And i will be asking the court for full-custody.
Do whatever it takes that your baby and yourself are safe and taken care of instead of him threatening u tell him to get a job to help support the new family and he to man up
Baby-girl, you should probably stop talking about abortion. Firstly, you need to go do some research on the topic because your description of what happens is not very accurate. Secondly, this thread isn't to discuss abortion. It's about trying to help twifey. Since it keeps being brought up, though, I think everyone saying it is wrong or should be illegal is an idiot. You think making it illegal is going to stop it? Drugs are illegal but people still do them. Now, to get back on topic, I still stand by my original opinion: leave his violent behind. You and your baby deserve the best. And I think you can do much better.
1. Abortion isn't a good idea 2. Don't get prengnate at 18 3. Talk to the father and his family { if there being annoying too} and try to work it out 4. Of it dosent work .......ummm....leave him? That's all I got for ya Good luck
LethalChick, my sisters were all unplanned pregnancies, I was a late in life baby to my birth parents, both of my sons were highly unplanned, but very much wanted. Unplanned pregnancies do not have a higher risk of producing problematic children. Kids that get neglected will often "act out" to seek attention, however, 95% of those "problematic kids" actually have a behavior disorder. ADD, ADHD, Autism, antisocial disorders. NONE of which is caused by being an unplanned babe. I'm going to assume you don't have kids of your own, otherwise you wouldn't EVEN DREAM of insulting children like that.