Most universities offer free or low cost councing from graduate students. Your childs school may also be able to refer you to an appropriate councler. Or take them to the police station, and have the cops scare the poo out of them. Show them what happens to people that hit other people.
I haven't read all of the comments, so I am not sure if this has already been brought up. I have a daughter that is VERY difficult to deal with. I won't go in details, but I have implemented a variety of strategies that are finally working. I agree with Pickles that reinforcing the positive works. When she (my child) was younger, talking it out didn't work even though I continued to try. As she has grown older and can reason better, I let her get her emotions out (crying, throwing a tantrum, being angry) then when she is calm we discuss her behavior and I offer suggestions on how she can get her emotions out in a more positive way. She has extreme emotions she hasn't learned to control. Another thing that has worked is to find an activity (such as karate, gymnastics, etc) that is very physical to wear the child out while still attempting to teach control and discipline over their body and mind. I know martial arts is very effective for boys as boys love it and the instructors specifically teach violent behavior isn't the answer but being in control is. I wish you luck. Remember that having a difficult child is not always a reflection of bad parenting. Sometimes children just need a different approach we haven't figured out yet.
Not sure if it helps but from what I know, what really helps a person is finding a good purpose in life. As a kid, you develop those by trying stuff out and parents can maybe see what they're good at and encourage them that way. There's also so many factors to consider which is why it's hard to give advice unless you really know the person. When my older brother rebelled, my then very young parents were told to send him to military school to straighten him up. Turns out it was the worst advice ever and it ended up ruining him. Get to know the kid really well before doing anything.
Not useful as it makes the child wonder if they've done something to deserve to be outcast by their family to be sent to a total stranger and told they won't be judged, knowing that everything they say and do is under observation. Talk to them and help them understand that certain behaviors will not be tolerated or rewarded. Take things away and make sure they completely understand why they are losing things. Restrict favorite activities until behavior corrects itself.
Have the child spend less time at the house that allows violence and more time at the house that doesn't allow violence, also don't let the kid hang out with kids that are violent or do drugs, smoke, or drink. Encourage the kid to participate in school activities (sports, clubs, etc.). If the kid has anger problems, anger management counseling. Also, monitor what the kid watches (videos with violence, smoking, people drinking or doing drugs, etc.)
Get them into sports or something similar, most kids get bored quick and react in a poor fashion merely to get attention and to pass the time. The good thing about sports is they feel like they are apart of something. I wish some of the people on this game would take this advice they'd be more pleasurable to deal with
I don't get that lol... I think everyone gets involved with smoking weed, drinking and partying by the time they reach high school, but this kid is 7. Sports would be good for him. Put him into football. Let him get his anger out in that way and trust me the coaches there, give out punishment laps. Personally, I'm getting my younger brother into soccer so he can get out all his energy and not be bored all the time. He'll be too exhausted to get mad.
Depends on the kid, my nephew was quite focused early in his life and never felt the need to party etc until he reached university. I think it goes back to what most ppl know deep down, if a person is busy with outside interests such as sports, fishing or whatever it may be it's more likely that they will succeed in life and be less inclined to try drugs/alcohol. And this goes back to parenting, parents should be more involved and give more guidance but even with the best intentions it's not always possible for all to do so with the way both parents needing to work these days just to make ends meet.
Sometimes it depends on the kid, but in other cases its better for them to get it out early instead of getting drugged up/drunk when they're older. But in the end, there's only so much you can do, its the child's choice on what they want in life.
Some more background: i am the childs step mother, we have tried for full custody in the past but couldnt get dar, we are once again starting the process. The child lives with his mother and her partber and their 2 kids. The partner is the one exposing the children to violence. All of these suggestions are very helpful thank you. karate- i myself did karate and their has been alot of talk by both parties about involving him in this. Counselor - he has been seeing one due to events witnessed, but has no built up a rapor with them, we are going to chanfe people Belt/smack - this used to be the punishment he was given at the other house, he was scared and 100% worse back then. People were called and the police involved, he does not receive smacks anymore (which i am content with) for myself timeout works fine. grounding - along with time out this has all ways procen the best ways, however something we struggle with due to split house holds. Eg. The child tried to smash another head into a brick wall. We wanted him grounded the main household did nothing. While we still punish him on our time its impossible to help when that time is so little Drugs ect - oh god no, we cant hide from the fact this will happen. He has spent a lot of time aroubd drugs that it is already normal. Another reason why we want full custody THANKS FOR EVERYTHING THESE HAVE BEEN VERY HELPFUL if u have more im willing to listen
I'd think DHS need to step up their game rude. He's obviously reacting to the things he's seen and had done to him.
Yeah, well we are currently working with dhs, huge events happened recently and so dhs has been involved. We understand that these events is why he is acting out, but still need help on how to approach him. But DHS has a lot to answer for.