I get the whole appearance thing I honestly do, which is why I generally avoid calling people fat of ugly even if their appearance isn't what I would consider attractive to me I avoid saying it and if I am to make a comment I wouldn't just say oh they're ugly I'd try and point out specifics but then I also say what I do like about them so it's not just me talking down about them and Yeah I understand how if you're not used to being complimented a lot that you may have trouble accepting it (Not gonna quote the other person cuz I already typed this + idk bb coding but I know that I'm not the only one that has trouble accepting things)