I just thought I'd address the concerns of the OP before this thread fades into inactivity. Wife-stealing is not against the terms of use, and thus is not an offense that could cause a player to be banned.
If you lost your wife, it's 'cause you don't worth it. You have to make a woman happy and to love her.
You didn't do ur duties as a husband... Try farming him in real life. He has pots tho. So it might be kinda hard. After all, he IS #1 in most fights won.