Tf?? How am I a cheater? I did nothing with anyone when I was dating him. Please don’t assume things you know nothing of. My current boyfriend and I had been really good friends and he supported me through my relationship. I’m sooo sorry my bf at the time ignored me so I broke up with him! Oh no! I’m horrible! I’m disgusting for realizing that he never cared about me, but that my best friend had always been there, yeah? Totally gross!
You definitely had feelings for him before you broke up with your bf or you wouldn't have gotten with him 2 days later. That's cheating imo that you kept someone you're clearly attracted to around while you were dating someone else. So, yah, you're disgusting. I would throw up on you, you're so repulsive
Man, god forbid someone know how to move on quick or know how to lose feelings the moment they finalize a break up with a toxic person! Let’s shame someone for breaking up with a toxic person and then being able to move on quickly!
so you only love someone when they talk to you? that's effed up...and then your love's gone the moment they stop doing it.. .i don't think you're really 'developed enough in your romantic feelings' when you have no idea what love really is... you're the type of person who 'easily jumps' in a relationship when you thought you're in love but in reality, your needs are just satisfied so you think you ARE in love..
Ah, yes, another person assuming they know everything about the relationship! I didn’t dump him just because he didn’t talk to me once. There’s many more variables, but you guys love ignoring those and shaming others for their choices instead! Did you know that communication and a non-toxic person is necessary for relationships? Lol! Super surprising, right?! Everyone has these needs you speak of. Everyone needs communication and actual care. I’m sooooo sorry someone different gave that to me when I broke up with me boyfriend at the time!!! Oh no!!
Okay honestly that’s not a really why this is going so horribly for you Also they aren’t judging you for leaving a toxic relationship so stop using that as your excuse crutch. It’s obnoxious. We’ve all dealt with a shitty ex in the past. You aren’t special. They’re judging you for literally not even waiting a whole week before hopping into some romantic relationship with another person, because it takes more than 48 hours to develop the kind of feelings it takes to make that kind of leap, *especially* after getting out of a previously abusive situation. Your being excessively defensive alsonisnt doing you any favors, but I’m sure you don’t care about that and will continue on with your rants so... have fun. I’m out.
Why do you guys act like you need to be in love with someone to go on a date with them and shít dang
I think it's different between going on dates to test the waters and being in a relationship. You previously made it sound as though you and your boyfriend had "made it official" 2 days after your breakup and I believe that's what set some people off, because typically a relationship isn't made official until there's some established romantic connection and a desire to commit to the person ー and the establishment and commitment cannot happen in 2 days. If it was just dating to test the waters, I personally do not see anything wrong with that if you had truly moved on from your ex as you have stated.
I feel like you trying to put rules on everyone else is a little ridiculous. There are different situations than your own. Aside from that, if the relationship is over then it’s not the other person’s business what happens after. And if you were used as a rebound that’s not just the other person’s fault. You allowed them to use you. The point of dating is to get to know one another before making anything legit, and if it was less than 3 months it sounds to me that both parties rushed into something that they weren’t exactly ready for. This day and age everyone rushes into it. If you don’t take the time to get to know someone then you’re really just asking for a bad ending. No one ever lets their true nature out right away. Patience is a virtue. In all aspects of life.
Yep. Exactly. I never said “I was completely exclusive with a different person I never had romantic interest in before after 2 days of breaking out with someone else” I personally did feel a connection and a want to be with my current bf after just a day of some romantic talk, but that probably has to do with us being best friends. This is why I wish people wouldn’t just assume things off of one post. Dating someone right after breaking up with another person doesn’t = cheating or any of the shít stated. Thank you for explaining though.
I think if you're previously best friends with someone, it's much easier to develop romantic feelings more quickly than it would be for, say, some guy you decided to go on a date from a dating app. You already know everything about the person, so it's just seeing them in a different light ー switching from platonic to romantic. It's so easy to do that sometimes it happens accidentally.
Ughhh exactly. That’s why I wish people would take a minute to -talk- about the situation or read everything before judging, man. It wasn’t some rando on tinder that I “~fell in love with~” after one date.