Is marriage against men?

This topic has a lot of gray areas.
Ideally, marry the person you intend to spend your life with and this won’t be an issue 🤷🏻‍♀️
At one point in time, when more women were stay at home moms I believe it was set up to help the women survive after a divorce, ya know going from someone supporting you and paying the bills to being on your own with no job or home or anything ... that’s not saying that there havnt been men who have gotten pretty screwed because I know a few who have, but again, there’s not a black and white answer here. And a lot goes into a divorce hearing and settlements, whether kids are involved, if both of them work, belongings, what’s in who’s name, how long they were married... so I don’t think you’re going to get the answer you’re looking for

 

That process you are describing is called divorce or separation. And yes, in that process, it has been objectively found that women tend to get more than they really should, and men end up with the short end of the stick.

However I believe that marriage itself is to the benefit of both men and women in equal measure.

Family courts tend to be biased against men. Male aggression is abhorred more by society than female aggression which is often either accepted or denied.

The main area of bias is in that women are viewed by the courts and society moreover as having a greater right to, connection to, etc. their children than men.

This bias is present in debates over abortion in which men have attempted to have a voice over whether their partner aborts his child or not. Many people simply dismiss his connection to the kid saying "it's her body, it's up to her".
Myths of a maternal instinct hold this up and many women feel shame at not feeling some magical/unearthly spark with their children.

But this is something I believe we as a society need to move beyond, especially in the current frame in which women are starting to work as much and sometimes more than men, and therefore are spending similar amounts of time with the kids as their partner. It is unfair to assume that a mother is more or less attached to her kids or more or less able to provide for them.

Both parents should have, in theory, equal rights to their kids. I know I spent equal amounts of time with my parents after their divorce and am currently best supported by my dad despite him working much longer hours than my mum.

Moving onto houses and wealth divisions in divorce , you can have a prenuptial agreement which basically fixes all of that.

Whenever dealing with property, moving into a place, or sharing big things with anyone, it's important to consider what could happen if things turn to shit and get some agreements down on paper.

Also to those of you who are considering sharing a house or boarding, etc. You can download and print out an "occupancy agreement" which entitles you to certain occupancy rights. Proving their infringement with the agreement already in place baaically guarantees you win in court. It's lighter than a tenant agreement but will still save you from bs.

 

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I didn’t read your whole essay ... but marriage is just a money scam

 

When you married the chick then owns 50% of everything even if she never bort it herself. Seen stuff of some guys end up homeless coz of that shit

 

Don't stick your dïck in crazy and you'll be fine.

 

Yeah I don't have that problem. Perhaps you should abstain for awhile while you gain control of yourself

 

I am a kid of divorce. In my state, as most states, if you're over the age of 12, you get to pick which parent you want to live with. Most kids also have an idea who they'd rather live with. My parents divorce was friendly, so it didn't even have to be battled in court. If you are both civilized adults about it, you don't have to go to court, which also saves you a bunch of money on lawyer fees. If you plan on being a jerk, not paying child support, keeping the kids all to yourself, and treating the other parent of your children like crap; maybe you should rethink marriage and children now before you've done it. My sister and I stayed with our mom, then after high school, I moved in with my dad until he passed away. I also had a few female friends who lived with their dads, and many who moved back and forth. These stories I hear are usually dead beat dads who think they're being ordered to pay too much in child support. Kids are expensive, you should have thought of that before creating them. You don't just dump them once they're 18 either, like the out-dated court system says you do. If you want your kid to be a stable adult, they need some support after they're 18. Imagine being ready to graduate high school, and dad's going to stop the child support right as you're going into college. You still have to list BOTH PARENTS income on your financial aid applications, it assumes both parents will contribute. The people really screwed over by the courts and system seem to be the children.

 

Get a prenup before u get married boys and girls, especially u boys.

 

Prenup is for everyone!