Okay, first of all I don't want to get too deep into the main reason I'm asking this. I need help with something, maybe you, the person reading this can throw me some suggestions, helpful tips and/or ideas. My boyfriend and I joke all. The. Time and I love that about us, don't get me wrong. We can call each other names and we don't take it serious. Here today I took the joke way too far and if you knew me physically and personally you'd know that's something new to me. Well, long story short, how can I stop taking jokes too serious? I've thought of things myself but I need more than I already have (I'll get to that shortly.) It's just, sometimes he gets (maybe we get) too into the joke and I start hearing his voice on a more serious side than his usual joking side so I start getting serious back. I want to change that but not completely change it, (I don't want to stop taking all jokes serious. Just, yeah, you get the picture.) Here is what I have: A. Remind myself in my head "it's just a joke." B. stop, take a few breaths and continue with the joke. C. Ask him calmly to stop and change the subject. D. Say "okay, that's enough. Joke about something else." Is that good enough on its own to work or does it need more structure or more ideas? I'm not really sure here so maybe you guys can give me some tips (if you've dealt with this before), suggestions or ideas. All is appreciated and welcomed. with love, Sweet_GummyBear]
setting boundaries is a good way to avoid probs. if you let him know clearly what subjects are touchy for you, then if he truly cares he'll respect you and leave those sore spots alone. hope that helps.
I've talked to him about it, he used to joke about me having another boyfriend and I took it very serious. He quit with that joke but now it's just jokes like "you're so thirsty," and not actual thirsty like for tea or water. The things we joke about are just random, funny and goofy things but we get too into the joke itself that I hear his voice serious and not his joking one. But if any topic comes up I find touchy to be joking about I will definitely talk to him. Thanks
Communication with him is KEY to ensuring that the jokes he says are not going to make u uncomfortable. firstly, tell him nicely about your problem with taking jokes too seriously sometimes. (if he's understanding, he would be more careful when he jokes with u next time) secondly, LAUGH at the jokes he says about u. When u are able to laugh at them, THEN you would not be so offended.
Hmmm. My ex and I would joke around a lot. Well, mostly me, but she'd take the joke. And whenever it actually hit a soft spot, i'd spend the rest of the day apologizing.... ._. So I'd say..... apologize? lol. that's just from my experience. And this went on for 5 years.
It seems you should have a conversation with him on knowing the limits. For example, it's all in fun to joke around but if it starts to get to you, it seems he does it for too long. So maybe have him tone it down on how far it takes it as in how long it lasts. If it lasts for awhile all in one joke, it could have you really thinking about it and thinking that a part of him could be serous.
Thanks guys This really helped me so much. Hopefully I won't be asking any more boyfriend questions on Off Topic