Are you friends with your ex/exes? How's the conversation going when you two talk? Is it casual? Full of reminiscing? Arguments? Is it true that you can never unlove an ex, but you can love someone more than you ever loved the previous person? That you can never stop loving a person but will learn how to live without them and eventually love someone else? What are you thoughts about this?
I'm friends with some of my exes, but like it's so difficult trying to hang out with them because they get so jealous. I try to have normal convos and they always seem to bring up the past and it becomes awkward. I cherish the memories. I still have love for them, as friends of course. If we ended up as exes, it was for a reason. It is true that you can love someone more than the previous person. In relationships, you'll meet people with different personalities and stuff.. and you'll connect with some more than others.
I'm friends with one of my exes. I never loved her in a romantic way, though. She did love me and she claims to be over it now and we do love each other in a general sort of way, like we care about each other a lot. Also I do think you can unlove people. One of my exes who I did actually love, I wouldn't say I do anymore. I still care about her well being but I'm not in love with her anymore nor do I want her as a friend. I tried to be friends with her a few times but she would always claim to want to be friends and then try to be something more. Once when we trying to be friends I mentioned that I had been on a date and she told me that she wanted us to be friends but "we should not date other people and stay exclusive to each other." So, she was clearly never sincere about wanting friendship from me. And then I have two other exes, one of which I am largely indifferent towards and never felt that close with so I never even considered being friends with her and she never wanted to be friends after. And the other who I would like to be friends with but if that ever happens it'll be far in the future. And then I have one dude friend who I never dated but he calls us exes because he had unreciprocated feelings for me when we were teenagers which he claims to be completely over and he has a long term gf and a kid now, so I believe him. We're not close but I have no reason to cut him out of my life and I like talking to him sometimes. Idk if this last one counts but I'm adding it anyway. So. It depends.
@PapiLovesHisThots Same. I am friends with some, and it just ends up in an argument because they'd compare my current relationship with what we had before. It's unhealthy in some ways. @Wednesday I am friends with my ex who I was my longest relationship. She told me the opposite. That she can never unlove me but is currently trying to love someone else. I don't know. I had conversations with exes after having no communication for years and they'd tell me they still love me. Which is completely weird.
Yeaah I'm friends with some exes. Honestly though, I've noticed that I'm friends with the ones that I've never had serious relationships with. They were relatively short termed and I don't think we were in too deep. Most importantly, we both had closure when we ended things, so it was fairly easy to maintain a friendship. Sometimes distance is the way to go though. It helps with healing, especially if you were invested in the relationship. I couldn't continue being friends with one guy because we found it hard to heal in an environment that got us into that situation to begin with, if that makes sense? Friendship wasn't going to work, but we still check up on each other every once in a while. Who knowsss