Okay so lets say your girlfriend, boyfriend, itthing, whateverthing, person you like and are kinda together with but not really is on vacation at the beach right, sends you a goodnight message, you respond and everything (like 11pm-ish) and you go to sleep. You wake up, and like, there's no response. You check the messaging app and she/he/it has been online since then, and pretty recently, but has not responded to your message or even read it. Has been on facebook sharing and liking things all morning, but has not responded to you or read your message. And then finally at 5pm she/he/it responds and asks how your day's been going and you decide to be petty and ignore it. For 5 hours until she/he/it writes again and says that she/he/it feels like every now and then she/he/it feels like you get mad at her/him/it and dont say anything and you ignore that too. Is that level of pettiness acceptable? Like if they were online all morning but didnt respond to you till later in the day, you can return it and not respond to them?? Also whats the appropriate response for that?? "Well you seem to not respond to me even while you're online so I feel it's fair I can do the same to you"?? ? Asking for a friend
If you like a person, you respond. If someone doesn't respond while doing other things, take the hint. Be clear, not petty. Ask and get it out in the open.
If this happens more than once, then there's some serious shiet to talk about, unless the other person doesn't take whatever thing they have seriously. Talk it out, best possible solution there is.
Well, then no level of pettiness is acceptable. If they don’t even really have a place in your life in the first place... why would what they think matter so much that you have to think about ways to be spiteful?
Well, no they do have a place in your life. The first sentence is explaining the person they are to you.
If the last message u (ur friend) sent was a response to the good night message. There isnt really a need of a response from the person on vacation. If they r on vacation they should be enjoying the time away. Doesnt mean they r avoiding anyone. When they have some down time from doing whatever they r that's when they wanna catch up with u (ur friend). And acting petty af isnt going to do anything other then start some bs in the "relationship" communication is important! But in this situation I think ur friend is reading more into it. My 2 cents
I was interested in a guy who was that level of petty. Like if I didn’t respond for x amount of hours, he wouldn’t respond for x amount of hours, but he’d make it known he was active on his social media. Needless to say it didn’t work out because that’s ridiculous. Relationships shouldn’t be “petty.” Especially when it comes to things like response time. It’s so easy to just talk to your significant other/whoever and resolve the issue.
So you think sharing animal videos on facebook has more importance than at least reading the message the person you claim to like sent you? Coz my friend sure doesnt
The thing is, she/he/it has the time to browse and share things in a social media app than responding to, what she/he/it claims, the person she/he/it likes (?)
Talk about what makes you upset, and if someone doesn't meet up to them despite how much you adore this person, then they don't deem you a priority like you do them. It's only fair they give you the same respect, so speak about these things like an adult. Tell this person what you want and how you want to be treated. Make sure there's a good understanding of your relationship with this person before having expectations however.