No hate talk! I am a 17 year old gay boy..... I haven't come out yet and was wondering if I should ..... What do you guys think?
Tough situation but people who really love you shouldn't care. Maybe try to explain it in a way that the love you feel for the same sex is no different to the love people may feel for the opposite sex. Where is Mich with her knowing advice?
First off, are you aware of anyone around you that is gay? Possibly someone in your school? Does your school have GSA? If not, research your gay community. If there is a center, that would be a great place to check out. It'll be good to get to know some people that are either in your situation, or were in the past (meaning coming out), just to get that support. Second, do you have any friends that you know will be there for you no matter what? Or any friends that have mentioned that they're accepting of homosexuality? For me, it was easier coming out to my friends first. As for my parents, I came out to my mom first. She's a really accepting and loving person, but it was still hard for me to do. I wrote a letter to her, and came out that way. I sat next to her as she read it, and she completely accepted me. And then she helped me tell my dad, who had an okay-ish reaction, which was better than I expected. Get that support, and people usually have a better reaction than you expect. It's a scary thing, the fear of being rejected. But even if people have a bad first reaction, give them some time. Most come around, and realize you're the same wonderful person. It can be "big news" to them, and it just throws them off. Read the book "Crisis" by Mitchell Gold, get those you came out to, to read it. To learn about the book, go to crisisbook.org Best of luck, darling. Follow me if you want to chat.
And remember, the unicorns support this thread. It's nobody's business what you do with your life or how you live it, except maybe your parents, but uhm as long as you do what's right for you things should work out.