TLDR: IF YOU HATE LONG ASS THREADS THAT COULD POTENTIALLY BORE YOU PLEASE STOP READING NOW!!! Shyness: the quality or state of being shy. Shy: Being reserved or showing or having nervousness or timidity in the company of other people. I am shy. Horribly shy. Cripplingly shy. And it sucks, because I didn't choose to be shy, it just happened. I love people. Being in the company of others is the best feeling in the world, I get my energy from other people. I hate feeling alone; I hate solitude. But people scare me, a lot, because I don't know how to connect, how to fit in, how to just function normally around other people. I've always wanted people to like me. To notice me. To actually sit down and listen to what I have to say. Because I have a lot to say. I keep it all bundled inside so whenever someone asks a simple question that probably deserves a one word answer I say everything on my mind, and long story short people don't like that. No one wants to listen to you spew your thoughts, feelings, and emotions... At least not mine. But to make matters worse, I'm not just shy or a huge chatterbox, I'm socially awkward. I feel like society has all this rules and expectation of how I'm supposed act, look, and speak and I never hit the mark. The only time I do it's when I'm acting. That's why I love theatre, I get to become someone else. They are me and I am them and there is no discerning between the two entities if I'm doing it correctly. Being normal means compromising a lot of what makes me who I am. So when I want to be normal, when I want to be liked, when I want to be what I'm not I act. And it's quite good acting. I'm shy and socially awkward and yes it sucks but I don't care. I don't care anymore because I realize that I'm still a wonderful person even if no one gets me. I get me. I can be my own best friend. As long as I know what I'm talking about and I love myself then what does it matter what everyone else thinks? Being shy sucks. Being afraid of people sucks. But I am afraid of people because I think they have control over me. I let people who don't know a thing about me dictate my life and frankly that's stupid. I might not be the most outgoing, or the funniest, or prettiest, or the blackest black person ever but damn it there's only one me around. So people can think I'm stuck up because I keep to myself and don't do everything that everyone else does. And they can think I'm weird because I'm not plugged into mainstream social media 24/7 so I'm never up to date and I still find songs from 2002 that everyone except me has already heard. I honestly don't know why I wrote this. I guess it's because I wanted to talk about what I was feeling but I didn't have anyone to tell. It's just I feel like people give themselves a hard time for not being like everyone else when that's actually really okay. It's okay to be different. In all honesty, In a world slowing being stripped of individuality and the concept of intrinsic value being different isn't just okay it's magnificent.
The most intelligent thread posted in a long time....that said I don't really care but hey at least effort was put into it
I'm socially awkward too at first. I think it happens when you panic about what people think of you. Shy people hate embarrassment. I loosen up once I'm closer to the person.
Lol yeah Nick. There's a lot of overthinking involved I tend to make small situations, like asking smoke I don't know for directions, big life threatening things. I get stuck in my own head and it makes it really hard to just relax and do whatever it is I need to do.
I can sympathize though...I used to be afraid to even order my own food at restaurants or at drive throughs
I'm socially awkward, but I'm not shy any more. I'm not sure why or how I stopped caring about embarrassment or anything but I'm glad I did. Good post.
?I'm shy and socially awkward too and I still force my mom to order for me and I'm 18? but I do get crazy when I start to know that person or if I'm talking to them like this and on xbox
As you grow older you usually just stop caring as much about what people think. and you develop a better sense of expression. For me, expression was the worst problem. I didn't know how to say or do things the way people would. Sometimes it comes out wrong and people assume I'm being mean.
?lmao I used to be shy, because of bully's but..then I moved and now I'm annoying an obnoxious but I'm really crazy when I really know that person