Excuses: Burn Them All

You're all full of excuses, including me and I am sick of it.

Excuses, one after another. I am exhausted of hearing them, from everyone. Excuses about why you're full of cynicism, excuses about why all the men in this world are terrible and there are only certain types of people in the world. I am exhausted of hearing reasons after reasons about why someone, other than yourself, is at fault for your own doings and why people continually categorize and label themselves for various reasons. It only makes the world a complicated mess.

We all have excuses to make ourselves miserable and why do we do it? Why do we make ourselves more miserable at the end of the day when life is guaranteed to make us miserable to begin with?

Why do people make love more complicated than it needs to be? Why are people afraid to put a label on a relationship? Why do they play mind games? Why do people walk away before a relationship can even begin?

Putting love aside, people make up bazillion of excuses to justify why they are allowed to be miserable. We wallow in our own choices, and justify why we subject ourselves to the same circumstances every single day. I may allow some leniency in that we all need to make mistakes to grow as a person but the first step is admitting you have a problem to begin with. If people want to be lonely and miserable for their entire life, they can continue to justify the reasons why someone can never measure up to their standards and expectations.

Yet having no expectations in itself also is a cop-out. It allows people to simply be and never make any commitments, making no commitments involves no risks or sacrifices.

They are both excuses and pandering to our self inflicted egos that we try so hard to protect. What are we protecting at the end of the day? Our pride? Our pride will be destroyed when we died and some semblance of some sort of glass house that comforts us with an empty bottle of alcohol isn't going to make a difference when we have these nice comforts of excuses to tell us.

There is an excuse for everything, for everything we do and everything we are. There is a justification and a pardon to forgive ourselves as we try to convince ourselves that our current path makes us happy rather than picking the harder road, the one that makes us face our inner selves. We all do it.

I am absolutely sick of it. I am sick of hearing it from everyone, whether it is people looking for love or for a reason for them to continue to bemoan their typical life, I have done it and so has the world. You know what?

It is time for it to end. If you want to make yourself miserable, then at least be honest about it and stop pretending you aren't doing it to yourself. If you don't want to make commitments then don't act like the rest of the world is at fault when you end up years down the road with nothing but the sky as your best friend, comforted with the secrets you so closely harbored.

If you want to pretend all guys are somehow Prince Charming and the guy that is doing your tattoo is somehow lesser than the clean shaven guy that is trying to steal your money or isn't full of fake niceties, have at it! Make yourself miserable, make yourself feel content at the end of the day when you feel used but realize: you have a choice. You are setting these expectations upon yourself when you fit everyone neatly into a box.

It is not only people who have clearly defined boundaries who are fault here, then there are the other people on the opposite side of the spectrum who use the reasoning of they never commit to anything therefore they're not imposing their stereotypes on everyone else. They judge everyone else by never making any commitment and filtering people away until those people leave because they're so afraid of putting a label on anything. They're just as bad as the people who want a ring on their finger the moment they enter into a relationship.

Then there are the people who go with the flow that eventually needs to have some sort of plan. The point of this rant is we all have expectations and whining about it when those expectations are foisted upon others in some sort of ideal world, whether we chase them away or we reject the world's view of us, we're all guilty of judging every single person.

You want to be happy? Then be happy and go with the flow, but also be willing to commit to things and go after what you want. The world doesn't happen because of two extremes, happiness happens when we want it and when we choose to stop making ourselves miserable. We all have our guards and our intricacies we build to keep people out, and if you really want to change that, then start looking at your own clearing rather than blaming everyone else for your own defective filters.

There is no such thing as good guys or good women. There is no such thing as slut. You don't like someone because they don't match your view of the world? Great, but don't expect them to return it, it is your perspective and you're wasting your time bemoaning someone else when you could just focus on yourself and start going after what does make you happy.

I've been called names by people and quite frankly, I don't care. If you're unhappy, that is your problem, not mine. Judging others because you have a different view is narrow-minded and leads to superficial behavior to begin with. Not everyone gets along with others but judging others simply because their mannerisms aren't the same as yours is a fault we all have and something I have learned to leave at the door. You have a choice to ignore it, so ignore it unless you somehow get something out of it judging and making yourself look better by putting down others in an air of superiority.

If you want to live without friends, without relationships or such, that is a choice we are making by expecting everyone to be what we already have judged everyone else to be. Welcome to town Lonely, population: 1. Yourself.

Excuses are a poor person's reason to stop evolving. You have a choice to be miserable. You have a choice to view the world as half full. You have a choice to never grow, because the tougher choice in the end is challenging ourselves to our suppositions and taking a chance on something we don't box away. You can never grow if you don't leap and that means stop using your past experiences to define all future ones.

It is enlightening to let go of that growing piles of expectations, as you may never know what you'll find in that person you would've otherwise dismissed because they didn't match your predisposed impression of being a good person.

Sometimes what you need is that person who challenges you and sometimes what you need is to let go of your cynicism and live life. You can't grow if you don't try.

There is no such thing as a good person, there is just human and we are all human. Try it!

Passion

 

Wifey it's ok i'm tipsy atm. ?

Slayer leave my thread since it is mine.

 

Oh would it be boring?

 

Thank you Wolf and Justin. ️