Hi, I have a few questions/ would like some advice on what actions I should take about this. Here is the situation: I was talking to my little sister yesterday and she told me that the kids in her class are bullying her (this is 5th grade so ages 10-11). She told me that the kids are calling her ugly, fat, and stupid. I told her that when they say that to her she should immediately tell her teacher. But she told me that she is scared to tell the teacher because she's worried that the kids bullying her will lie to the teacher and then afterwards make fun of her. I told her that maybe she should tell our mom so that our mom could talk to the teacher. But my sister is scared to do that as well because she says that if the school finds out and talks to the kids making of fun her, the bullying will only get worse. I told her to try and stand up for herself and tell them "stop, don't talk to me like that", but she said that when she has done this in the past, the kids ignore her comment and continue the bullying. I told my sister that I really have no clue about what to do and that I'll try thinking about it and that I'll tell her if I can think of anything. I don't know what I can possibly tell her that will help. Do you guys have any ideas? If you do please tell me, I don't want to see my little sister hurt or upset by other kids. I want her to be happy, please help.
You could go into her school and inform her teacher of the bullying. And tell your sister, that them calling her ugly, doesn't make them pretty.
If your sister isn't able to take control, and you're the only person she can trust, I suggest you continue to encourage her to do so. If you tell your mother or the teacher you'll be betraying her trust, especially if it does make things worse. That being said, try to talk sense to her. These kids are 10-11. They'll still fear their teacher, so I think encouraging the girl to tell the teacher is the right move. If she won't believe the child, then I think further action should be taken by your mother.
Let your sister know there is nothing wrong with telling teachers and the principal, thats what they are there for. No one should have to go through that. If she's afraid you or your mom need to contact her teacher. Bullying has a zero tolerance policy in most schools. Meanwhile you encourage your sister to see the beautiful child that she is. If you see any drastic changes in her personality you should talk to your mom.
Mags I would suggest telling your parents for your sister. Bullying can lead to much worse things. If the school refuses to get involved and stop it your parents could go to the police. It may only be middle school but it's considered harassment.
Well. Teach your sister how to fight, get her into some martial arts class, then if they pick on her she can break their jaws, Etc.
I'll keep encouraging her and ill try convincing her to tell the teacher, but the problem is I do see her point. The kids will just make fun of her when the teacher isnt looking but theyll still do it. And like Royale said, me telling them for her would betray her trust, and make her not tell me if something like that ever happens again.
Better than being bullied the rest of your life, you gotta do what you gotta do, her choice her life, your sister too. Deuces
I had bullying when I was thirteen. We'll just say, I wasn't the most popular of girls. I had three friends, and some people I knew, but rarely talked to. The more popular girls talked about me, how strange I was (I was a weird girl). I got so paranoid, that whenever somebody whispered, I had to hear what they were saying. After a while, I told my head of year. They sorted it. Stopped the rumours. I know the amount of courage it takes to be able to tell people about this kind of thing. Keep convincing her.
Don't tell teacher then.....go to the principle, she never said about that did she? Teachers aren't stupid ether, they can normally tell when kids that age lie, simply because they're crap at lying Having read hair, glasses, being epileptic, and other health issues, I went through hell when I was in primary and secondary/high school years, from verbal, the physical bullying. Even now, I could be out walking and some one would drive pass, slow down, pull down the window and tell abusive names at me due to my hair. When at school, I simply told the teachers, even tho my bullies would lie, they still got into trouble and appropriate actions were taken. Other than that, just ignore them. They can't bully you if you don't pay attention to their bullying.
But how can I tell her that the kids won't get mad at her and start being worse and adding "taddletaler" to the list? I cant tell her that because I don't know that its true. And that there is her main concern for getting adults involved. She is afraid that telling on the kids will worsen her situation.
Bullying sucks. When I was younger around 13 or so I had no friends and I was hella bullied but I always confronted the girls. So she should too
You should tell your sister this: If you are being bullied *When possible, ignore the bully. *Build a wall around you *Use visualization *Stay Positive *Hang around other people *Be Confident *Keep out of bully’s way *ASK AN ADULT FOR HELP ALWAYS REMEMBER: You should Never think you are alone because you are not. People will help you if you speak up. Suggestions on how to stand up to a bully *Telling him or her to leave you alone may get a bully off your back *Ever heard of the phrase “kill them with kindness”? Being nice to a bully may throw him or her off *Using humor can also throw a bully off track *Use positive self-talk. Try saying to yourself something like I know I am better than that. I’m not like that. I don’t have to pick on other people to know that I am good If the Bullying continues *Tell the school principal or vice principal that you are still being bullied. *Tell your teachers if the bullying is happening in their class. *Report it to the Resource officer at your school if it gets extremely bad. *Have your parents arrange a meeting with the bullies parents and a teacher or principal. Remember..... Effects of bullying on those who are targeted are: *risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide. *Those who have been the targets of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. *Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. Also... You can tell if someone is being bullied; You may notice some changes in behavior, including: *unwillingness to go to school *feeling unwell, often with a headache *irritability *anxiety *aggression towards you or others in your family *bedwetting *waking in the night ALWAYS Do Something if you see someone getting bullied. *Report it to a Teacher, Principle, Social network support team or a Parent. *Stand up for the victim instead of just watch as they helplessly get bullied right in front of your eyes. Lol this information is from a PowerPoint I made about bullying and such.
Actually she did, because that's who my mom would call. And I guess thats true about lying, but unfortunatley teachers tend not to believe her even when shes telling the truth since shes not the "typical girl". You know how boys and girls dislike eachother at the age? She plays mostly with boys and has hardly any friends that are girls so the teachers are slightly biased towards her.