Which I must say is quite sad... Chivalry? Self respect? Is it as old as yesterday's twitter post? Chivalrous (adjective) 1: valiant 2: of, relating to, or characteristic of chivalry and knight-errantry, 3a: marked by honor, generosity, and courtesy b: marked by courtesy and high-minded consideration especially to WOMEN Read that boys? And yes I said boys... Being called a man is something that is earned. Unfortunately for most boys posting on campus you haven't earned this title yet. Which brings me to your posts boys... Asking ladies to be your girlfriend right off the cuff is quite bold. Don't you want to get to know them first? First dates can be quite awesome although some just end in disaster. Believe me I've been on the receiving end of both. How about courtship? A woman can be like a car... You need to check it out first. Does it fit your lifestyle? And when you take it for a test run (first date) does it go smoothly? After you decide it's the right car for you remember you must take care of it and cherish it for you don't want it to fall apart!! Then come the posts which are extremely offensive (in my opinion) those that ask for inappropriate chat or for women with certain types of unholy characteristics that are just sad. Now we all would like instant gratification sometimes but in the end you're left alone. Why call women certain names like a slut or a whore? Really? Do you want that type of woman in your life? If so please seek out other sites for that. If not then please refer to the paragraph above. Now girls... Same goes for you! Don't you want to be known as a respected lady? Self-respect (noun) 1: a proper respect for oneself as a human being 2: regard for one's own standing or position I happen to have an affinity for shoes!(own over 100 pairs) We all try on shoes before we buy them to see if they are the right fit, don't we? So, same goes for men... get to know them first before you decide to welcome them into your home. I see lots of girls offering pics and certain types of chat numerous times a day on here. What happened to making a man work for you? You are amazing and have something to offer!! Don't sell yourself short! Sure he might like you for a short while but then he moves on to the next dame in line. Do you want to be just another number or a face he can't remember? I sure as hell don't! I look for special qualities in a man. Does he open the door for me? Does he ask the simple question of how my day was? Does he bring me a blanket because he can see I'm cold while sitting on the couch on movie night? Among many many other things. Why? Because I'm special and I'm worth it. You are too!! Don't lower your standards or self-worth in trying to lure a man into being with you. Now for those of you who took the time to read this..YOU'RE A REAL TROOPER!!!! Now ladies and gentlemen... Please think about chivalry and self-respect. We all have a great value to one another and each person deserves to be loved for who they are. There are many ways of finding love... at a bar, school, and even on party in my dorm. I know because I have lived it and seen it. There are many wonderfully amazing people on here. Just take the time to get to know one another. Is there any way we can try and not degrade ourselves just for the feeling of being "loved" for five minutes? I believe so and I believe in you. Peaceand love to you all. After all... All we have is each other. Yours truly, Jen
Well written Jen, I agree 100% I hope that people take time to read this thread and take it to heart. Far too often we see desperate people on campus with no respect for themselves or others. Awesome job Jen, thanks for taking the time to write this
If I posted this exact same thread on forums. Would it still be the best forum... Or do u say that cause J31 posted it! Regardless good thread!!
Great post Jen. Agree 100%. Thanks for writing it I hope people read it, and begin following it, and so maybe campus can slowly change
Maybe Jen has a hidden sense of humor here but she's asking ladies if they try shoes on to see if they're a good fit and then relating it to choosing a man Maybe this is just a horribly ironic coincidence given the nature of the post though
Hmm… Suprised there arent any "what about love at first sight" comments Good post j31 I hope it reaches your intended audience