Hello PIMD it's been a while. I need some advice. So I have a really huge crush on my neighbor. She is fantastic. I've known her for almost half a year. I've been there for her through her breakup and so much more. She says she only views me as a brother. Yet there's some things that make me think otherwise. We spend almost all day together. She's been 'being a hoe' because that's what she does after she gets out of a relationship. I've been there before and than after every one of her hook-ups. It's like I feel like she's just using me for the company. However I feel like if I wait until after this phase I might have a chance. It honestly hurts a little bit knowing I'm keeping her happy through all of this. And than if I am out of town for a few days she tells me that she misses me and needs me back. I cannot read her, I don't know what I should do. Please help. I need advice.
It's easy for others to do lol, I'm trying not to ruin what I already have, and I'm kinda old fashioned, I don't believe in hooking up. I believe in getting to know someone before getting laid. I believe in dating to marry.
You already know her so you can hook up and then get married. Go for it. Why would it ruin what you have? Marrying her will probably ruin what you have so no point fearing it.
Because she only views me as a brother and has told a different mutual friend of ours that's all shes ever gonna view me as is a really good friend. I'm scared if I try anything that it'll make it awkward between us, she's literally the only person I hang out with, and if I do anything and it pushes her away I won't have anyone
Not tryna ruin what u have already? Bro u have nothing she's using u. Use her and dumb her before she puts u in the trash bin
That's an unhealthy train of thought. Learn to love yourself, dummy. No wonder she doesn't respect you
I guess nobody cares about anybody else's happiness anymore 🤷♂️ my Faith in humanity has now decreased
I've been through a lot of both my exes making me seem like garbage and that I don't deserve love. They both cheated on me. So it's kinda hard to love myself when nobody else does, but see she makes me feel like someone cares about me and I don't want to ruin that
you need to realize you don't make her happy. You're just her last resort when her other toys arent around. To make it worse, you dont even get action from her. She thinks of you as a BROTHER. so Keep hurting yourself to make her happy and see where it gets u in life. Edit: wrong quote sorry
You can find someone who cares about you and doesn't use you, though. You need to work on self-esteem and stuffs, don't let yourself be ruined by two lame peeps who didn't realize the damage they were doing
🤔You might be misvaluing yourself. There's probably a reason she chooses to spend time with you. It's not just the lack of an alternative.
'both' bro that's like nothing may as well still be a virgin hit the clubs or some shit meet new chicks