Is it really relationship advice when it’s about an ex? Well, anyways. So my ex has been extremely pissy when it comes to me and idrk what to do considering we were friends before dating (for 5 years) and agreed to stay that way after we broke up too. Now I’m a very confrontational and logical person, but they’re honestly the exact opposite and subtweet me in negative contexts. All the damn time. And I’m on the verge of cracking and asking them to shove it and leave. Can I have some advice? Should I wait it out or? Be the first to take initiative and tell them to back off and stop being rude? It could totally jeopardize our friendship but I don’t really think of that as a bad thing anymore... Thanks in advance. Hope y’all reading do get some entertainment outta this
Don't be friends with people you've dated. It's dumb. If you guys ended up dating, you probably weren't really 'friends' anyway since there was apparently an underlying attraction for a long time
Tell them to back off tbh. I don't think being friends with your ex is a bad thing unless it ended ugly but maybe not when y'all ended it recently? (unless that's not the case idk)
Yeah you guys need to give each other space after breaking up, and that means you can't be friends. There's a chance you can regain your friendship sometime in the future, but for now you guys need to distance yourself.
So you were friends before, then dated and just recently broke up. Did you guys say you were going to stay friends?
If you find it hard to keep atleast the friendship, just keep your distance. You already know what to do, you're just indenial. I got confused for a second.
If your ex is being toxic your best bet is to walk away completely. Its hard losing a friendship but toxic will bring you down.
Hey Klance. I’m sorry you are going through this. You said they are subtweeting about you in negative shade, it sounds like they are still not over the break up or somewhat feel wronged by you. Have a real talk with them and distance yourself, give yourself some time before going back to friends. Your friendship is not gonna be the same as before so maybe they are acting out for that loss. You don’t know how they are taking the loss of connection and dealing with it, so talk to them. I really hope things go well
People need time to heal. Let them throw their little tantrum, ignore it, see if it passes, then see if things can move forward from there. Unless they're being abusive of course. I've maintained a great friendship with two of my exes. Keep in mind that a romantic relationship on the foundation of many years of friendship, means they're still the same person you wanted to be friends with in the beginning, and so long as they haven't been abusive, then there's no reason you can't be friends again.
I honestly can't stress this enough. It took me and some of my exes a few years to be "friends" again without the arguments and all the drama. You can't be friends right after break up. That's like being in a war, getting bomb, and being rescued then you jump in another war.
Ask if they have a problem with you. Make it clear that their recent behaviour is rude and un-welcome and if there is a problem, talk it out or take some time away from each other. If they deny having any issues with you and continue being pissy, walk away. No point in salvaging a friendship when they won't come out and talk about the issues.