Yikes, I wrote a big ass paragraph about how passionate I am about labels and what kitten calls "microlabels" being apart of the lgbt community then I got kicked from the server and my paragraph deleted. Anywho, what people identity as and their sexuality, it does not involve third-parties and their opinions unless they want it to. It's not fun not belonging to a community that you feel you relate to. Just because one person invalidates your right to be apart of lgbt, does not mean they are right. Lgbt does not just mean lgbt, it's spectrum is so vast, it's almost impossible to list all of what it encompasses. If you say you're a polyamorus demisexual trans-les-female, then I support you and your journey but I won't involve myself or my opinions because I know what those labels mean to you and it makes me happy seeing someone include themselves in a community that's supposed to be close-knit. People wrongfully lack the ability to empathize or straight-up acknowledge the fact that people will do what they want and we have no right to say they can't be what they claim to be in the lgbt community. It is not your place to invalidate others.
Some people don't like labels and some find it liberating. To me, labels sometimes create borders and inadvertently becomes exclusive of people. The trouble with labels is you could never truly define a person with a label due to how unique everyone is.
So things I missed while I was gone from this thread: People arguing about the meaning about obscure pointless words. New obscure pointless words being introduced. I'm not saying we should avoid obscure pointless words and all, but in my mind you're nearly all hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobics who have been lucky to avoid pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis so far in your lives....
literally NOBODY is stopping you from creating your own community. if i dont have a community for being french, i dont claim to be kenyan and coopt black history and events. if you're not lgbt, you don't claim to be lgbt and coopt lgbt history and events. lgbt isnt just a kool kidz klub for anyone who feels like joining it. it has a massive history of oppression and pain and was created to keep sga and trans people safe from and united in the face of homophobia and transphobia. if your identity has no risk of exposing you to homophobia or transphobia - aka you are not trans or sga - this is NOT YOUR COMMUNITY and YOU are part of who we are trying to keep safe from. invading our community does not make it yours. create your own - one that actually suits your identity and needs.
I don’t want to apart of the community and I will never claim to be in it because I’m a straight cis women. However just because I’m not apart of it doesn’t mean I don’t support and celebrate the movement/progress of this community. I think that’s what a lot of people are getting hurt by, you can still support and stand by a group/community when you’re not classified as a member (I.e. black lives matter movement). What I got a problem with is when say members of a group like the LGBT community claim to be inclusive but are actually very oppressive to certain people of their own community !! (I.e. trans, drag kings etc). The LGBT community is suppose to be loving, accepting of all and being proud of who they are ! To push against stigmas and to have equal rights and treatment that straight people get. Which is why I stand and support this group, I try my best to educate others or redirect them to a place where they can get better knowledge. I can’t do a great deal but I mean if 1 less person is self aware of their slurs they’re using I think that’s progress.
hello hi i am back labels can be cool and if you wanna use em i 100% support u however asexuality by itself is not lgbt if you are not sga you are not lgbt OR if you are not trans you are not lgbt aces and their experiences do not fall in line with the experiences of trans and sga people what aces need is different from what trans and sga people need it is detrimental to both aces and lgbt to lump everyone together under the lgbt community