How the victim feels In the last part we saw how the nagger feels. Now lets take a look at how the victim feels. Women please read this From a male standpoint, nagging is a continual, indirect and negative reminder of the things he hasn't done, or his shortcomings. The more the nagger nags, the more the victim retreats behind the kind of defensive barriers(newspapers, computers, homework, gloomy face) that drive the nagged crazy. No one likes guilt continually thrust on them. Everyone avoids the nagger, leaving her alone and feeling resentful. When she starts feeling even more trapped, unrecognised and isolated, the victim may suffer even more. So guys, avoiding isn't a solution. So what could be the possible solutions? Solution: Saying What You Mean Nagging is so often a clear signal that a communication problem exists between 2 ppl. Instead of addressing that problem, however, it's usually far easier to pick on little trivial things and bait the victim with those instead. This is particularly a tendency many women have. Little girls are still brought up believing that they should be nice and sweet, and put their needs and feelings last. they grow up into women who believe its their role to keep the peace, to smooth over problems, to be liked and love. Hence why they never talk about their problems directly but nah instead. Women often expect men to intuitively pick up on what they're thinking, without actually saying it. They assume that if they yawn and say "I'm so tired, ill go to bed now" and wander off, men will brush off their teeth, gargle with breath freshener, put on some deodorant and slip into something more comfortable to join them in the bed for a love making session. But the men get a beer from the fridge and watch sport. The woman falls asleep while waiting, feeling unwanted and unloved. Women need to understand that male brain function is comparatively simple and they can rarely guess what women say mean beyond the actual words they've uttered. So when women learn to say directly what they mean, men will respond more readily Give The Man 30 Minutes of Fire Gazing Time At the end of a long workday, a man needs about 30 minutes of fire gazing time to recoup energies before he's ready to talk. Most women,however, are always ready to talk and want to talk immediately. This should be avoided Note:There's more solutions but ill end it here coz i don't wanna make it too long. Chapter 2 coming soon
.... You do know that their intuitive men do exists. And so do straightforward women. Also I feel like at a certain point you should be able to pick up on some if not a lot of what your partner wants and needs, and have an overall understanding of who the hell they are otherwise you're kind of a crap partner (men AND women). I feel like most issues in relationships simply stem from just not taking the damn time to learn to understand and respect the person you're with. I mean isn't that what good communication is built on anyway? But what do I know?
Women are taught to put their needs and feelings last? Wut rock u living unda it's the other way around you need to put her feelings and needs first or she'll divorce yer ass lul