In all honesty you need to do lots of documentation to take into court. I'd also advise a background check on the mothers partner. You need to bring up any history of drugs & also request a drug test. Now days if any parent comes up dirty for drugs they lose the case. Bring up any past history & up to now to show how that home environment has changed him. Something more is probably going on that is making him act out. He may also have pent up issues with things taking place. I mean, I myself acted out a lot when I was a kid bcuz of issues at home. My problem was my daddy didn't believe me with all my step mom did to me over the yrs from physical & emotional abuse. I just bottled it up til I need up fighting in school too much. My school had put me in anger management groups the school did themselves. I did better with other student talking out issues who could relate to me vs guidance counselors and docs. That was just me tho. Ofc I did have a lot more issues than just my step ma. Not saying her partner is doing anything but you never really know. How often do you have him vs his mother tho?
That what we are doing. The dhs work is trying to pushnus to take it to court, which we are now looking into, His school has threatened if we don't get custody they will expell him, because i seem to be the only one who can keep him in check. But even im struggling nnow. The father has a restaining order out on him atm, but somehow is still allowed to live with them... we have a fairly decent case thanks to recent issues. So thanks for your advice ill make sure we are doccumenting all that and get statements from people saying how much he has changed. So in the mean time i just need to find ways of changing his behaviour to be less violent. If we do manage custody, life will be easyier to teavh him that. But in the mean time i need to find ways of doing it with very litte time or support from the other household
Things like these makes me sad. Rememberin how my parents treated me like an adopted child. Had the worst childhood. Didnt rebeled because i know rebelling against them would just make things worst. Just remember everything will be okay.
This is very true. Find what they value the most and then take it away if they step out of line. It worked on my brother.
My son went through behavior issues when he turned 5. We still aren't sure what started the bad behavior. We don't not condone any type of violence or negativity in our home. When he turned 6 it went from bad to worse. He was diagnosed with ADHD which didn't help matters. My husband and I placed him in Tae Kwon Doe to help with discipline. I explained to his instructor what his issues were at home and in school and his instructor did not go easy on him as they do not put up with disrespect in any manner. They will actually take his belt away and make him start over at a white belt if his actions warrent the need. Having this type of consequence hanging over him has helped as he does not want to lose his progress and what he has worked so hard for. He has been in tae kwon doe for about 8 months now and his behavior is 100% times better. He is respectful and listens. He has learned how to speak with his words rather than his fists. I am very proud of him with how far he has come. Possibly finding something for your child that has the same type of discipline would help. Put him in something he loves and if he is bad, he will lose going that time. Hope everything works out for you.
Sometimes, children need an asswhooping. ? my pops used to beat my ass and I turned out fine... Sorta
Please guys, i have said no to any torturous or violent suggestions. Please leave the thread or give advice i can actually use. Thanks
I think you need to find a way to get the other household on board. Its going to be difficult because it won't be consistent. Anything you implement will be undone once the child is in the other household. I personal would seek to stop the child from going there if at all possible until his behavior is under control
I personally wouldn't put an already violent child in karate. I would try Football or Little Leagues, run until his heart is content, and take his aggression out on a ball. Batting cages are always fun, even when you get older. The courts is going to take patience and time, but have faith in him, my cousin has been fighting a custody battle for while now, even though the mother of his daughter does drugs, is barely there, and is an abusive relationship. It's a process, but patience is the key. And have patience with the child. I wish the best of luck for you and your family.
A spanking is not abuse. Slapping them in the face, beating them for no reason throwing them is abuse. Spanking is what taught me respect