I dont have ur shy problem but in totally foreign situations i can also be socially awkward. Idk uve just got to laugh at urself and dont take urself too srsly. Then really i dont think ull care as much what others think. At least thats how i see it
Some people are naturally introverted and are happy that way though and there's nothing wrong with it. But learning how to communicate is good too.
Um, everyone's awkward to some degree, that's what makes someone quirky and stand out to other people. Like, "OMG that girl is so awkward, she trips over her left foot EVERYTIME someone new says hi"... Everyone's shy... And some people are just better at masking it than others. Anyone who says they are not any are lying. There has never been a situation in life that someone didn't want to be in, but had to, and it made them uncomfortable. Solitude is great. It's the time in which you really get to see who you are. Sure, a large group of people can push you out of your comfort zone, but when you are simply alone in your bed at night, with your thoughts, that's you. And if your thoughts bother you while you're alone, you do not accept yourself. TLDR: it's okay to be alone, just not lonely. Shyness is normal, but don't let it get in the way of being your best self.
I think I can somewhat, but not totally, relate, when I first meet someone new im very shy and probably sound very awkward, but then after 5 or so minutes I become very outgoing. It used to be days, but now the time is getting shorter?, I guess the more you embrace yourself, the less shy you become.
Very nice thread Anna, and you're not awkward, you're sweet. I'm too tired comment more and the rest pretty much said it all anyway. I'm loving the comments on this one. Good to see people be nice in forums. Doesn't happen much.
Shyness is underrated! There must be a revolution of shyness!! To eliminate all the noisy happy douches telling shy people they need to go out more and talk more and mingle. BLAAAH
In rl I'm shy as hell. I don't really open up to ppl fast at all. It really deps on the person bcuz it can take me hrs to open up or maybe even days. With groups of ppl I'm def shy and tend to stick to myself. I really don't talk much unless I feel like I can really dig into a convo and have a gd bit to say about it. So then at that point I may be annoying bcuz I go on and on about it more than it is needed. I really think the reason behind a person being shy comes down to acceptance and how comfortable you feel with yourself. If you are more secure about yourself you may be more of the outgoing type than others. Shy ppl o think are less secure and I do agree I think rejection is another part of ppl being shy. I do think it starts with childhood and stays with you until you learn to except who you are and don't care what ppl think. Being shy and wanting to be alone or solitude is a lil more different I think. Shyness controls how you act or talk around others. Solitude is you just wanting to be by yourself which is ok to a point. Some ppl can't deal with solitude bcuz if you have too much of it you may end up feeling alone in the end. Ppl still need contact with others to feel gd even if it is just a few mins out of the day. But then you have the few that it doesn't bother them to go days w.o. talking to ppl and being alone. At some time you may grow out of being shy. That really deps on you and how comfortable you are with yourself and how accepting you are of yourself. No one should let it control your life so much that it makes you feel alone.
I was shy but then I realized I'm at least 39% superior to everyone so yeah. Now I just treat everyone like subordinates and get paid.