If I got hit, spanked, or had Goya beans thrown at the back off my head, it was deserving because I never listened. My parents would request I stop doing whatever it was that I was doing and I was so hardheaded I wouldn't, so I suffered the repercussions. I can tell you that I respect my elders, I love my parents, and it made me a stronger person, unfortunately I'm still hardheaded so I do learn things the hard way like my dad used to say. In my culture any elder of mine could spank me if I didn't listen. If all these people were scarred by it, then why are we joking about it now?
idk if youre asking me about joking about it. But my siblings & cousins joke about it because its better to laugh about it than harbor anger toward something that was done many yrs ago... If others are scarred, theyve had a different experience from myself. If theyre scarred from it though theyve had a similar experience, its because they have a different mindset than I. Not everyone is going to look at an experience the same way. :\
No darkcandy this was meant for smurfette, because she is saying its "abuse" and that it scars people. I was apparently "abused" yet I laugh about it.
hands, books, belt...my dad made a *beating stick* that was thick and wide on one end and and thin on the other, depending how bad you were lol the small end was the most painful...the things pple think up
@ Kal_El, I'm simply stating my opinion, from what I have witnessed or experienced. Everyone has a different opinion on this based on their own experiences or knowledge/thoughts. I'm right in my opinion, as you are in yours.
Many people don't believe in disciplining a child like that because they have other ways but my best way is to beat they ass. In my household a candle is a belt. A belt Is a belt. A play station controller is a belt. A broom is a belt. Fuck up if u want too. U be dead before u get outside. Cuz I'll be damned if my child gọn act like he just came out a mental hospital.
I got beat with a huge ass belt with one of them big ass silver dollar holder buckles When I got older, my parents would use whatever they grabbed first... Big purple comb (which hurt worse than it sounds... Welts ya) ... Stereos ... Hands... Etc. Worst I seen though is my friends was beat in the face by her sister with a frying pan. .. She was unrecognizable
broom stick.. belt.. those solid thick rubber hoses and sometimes those horse whipping sticks. The worst was when they made u go find ur *stick* and u get a small one that breaks so they send u to get another bigger one
I knew this may get to a point if ppl believe in spankings/punishment of a child. Yes big dif between abuse (as seen before about the punching and kid dying) and spanking your child. My daddy did spankings but he also talked to us of why we got our spankings. Tbh daddy used to do it if we got bad grades in school also. I used to hate when report cards came out. But we got a warning for a d+ anything under was grounded. It worked tho we got our grades up. He even spanked us in public bcuz we were acting out and he expected us to behave. Trust me wasn't cool having that done in public so we did carry ourselves better. I think when dealing with young kids just giving them a spanking will not always work for them. Then need an understanding of why they got the punishment. I may not of liked it when I was a kid and might sound crazy when I thanked him for bringing us kids up like that. I've seen many kids now days don't respect der parents or get into trouble more often. And spankings may not work for a child. Like my step bro for example daddy had to make him get down in a push up position and hold himself der. It depends on the kid and how the parents deals with punishments. Knowing what gets the point across to the child of why they are being punished