just because you discipline your kid the way you were doesn't necessarily means he/she will turn out like you. I'm not saying to not discipline your child. just discipline your child within reason and what the law allows. if you're locked up for child abuse, who's going to take care of your child? Have you ever had to attend an autopsy of a child that died by the hands literally of a parent? this guy punched his son in the chest as a form of discipline. he didn't have marks or bruises either but one punch ended his life. just be mindful of the way you physically discipline your kid. make sure your method works.
Punching is abuse, whooping your child on the butt isn't. Like I said there's a line between abuse, and discipline. Punching your child anywhere is abuse!
I disagree with you, Anya. My "mother" spanked her kids with her hand/belt/other objects. After awhile all it did was hurt, but you got used to it and usually we just didn't care what she did to us. She did other shit as well. But her violence toward her children did nothing to "discipline" us. My father never once raised a hand to me, and yet I've never disobeyed him. Fact of the matter is. No matter how violent my "mother" got toward me, it wasn't ever real discipline because I never took it as a lesson learned. It was just painful and abusive. Yet my father giving me a lecture and saying he was disappointed was more "discipline" than the violence of spanking or other things my "mother" showed. My dad's side of the family also doesn't believe in spanking children, and they're children don't misbehave very often. So to say hitting a child in ANY aspect is okay because it's "discipline"? I don't agree with. There are ways to manage and "discipline" a child without hitting them in any way, shape, or form. Raising a hand/foot/object to a child's body body with the intent to punish/harm is abuse. But that's just my opinion.
not here u can punch your kid lol untill recently kid could also be beaten in school and still are beaten with stick in goverment shcools
Spanking a child isn't violence. Punching them is. People have used spankings as dicipline for centuries, yet now because of the ever changing society and government stepping in, has become taboo. Some have religious reasons for spanking, some have have to do with their culture, the way they were raised.
Smurfette maybe it's because your mother only used spankings as a discipline. As I've stated in previous comments, you must do more then spank in order for it to be effective, such as grounding, taking away privileges and so fourth, spankings is only one form of discipline, and in order for that to work you must use others as well.
I have 3 siblings, after the discipline my mother and father taught us as we grew up to be responsible adults who take actions for our behaviors, that's what I want for my children, instead of them thinking it's okay to get away with bloody murder. None of us have ever even been in trouble with the law.
She did all of those things. NOTHING worked. But I'll stand by what I said: In my opinion, spanking is not a form of discipline, but is abuse. Because it's physical and emotional pain, can leave scarring, and usually comes with verbal abuse as well. I'll admit, with seeing myself and my three siblings "disciplined", that I may be biased on this subject, as I've never seen a "positive" outcome of spanking.
i was in A situation once where she said " ooh baby spank me (; " SO I SLAPPED HER WITH THE WORD OF THE LORD ?
These methods have been argued about for a long time. Smurfette, while you do not approve of discipline by spanking. There are still going to be people who do it. In my culture you can get a whooping by any elder... not just by our parents. My siblings and i laugh about it now. Idk you or your life... but I can tell you in my experience, it was easier for me to let go of any anger from my whoopings. Theyve made me stronger... At this point in time my parents and I have an amazing relationship. The past is in the past For my family anyways.
When i was smaller, i'd get hit by lots of stuff my parents wanted to hit me with when they were mad i grew up slightly scared and awkward around them. lawls. ? well the past is the past for a reason.