I tend to look at just the words people say, and not at their name. This is good, because it creates unbiased judgement and I even ridicule friends publicly because of it, and then let them off later or apologize in private... This is bad because of that same reason. However, because I don't look at names, I don't necessarily know who I am talking to, so I do not address them directly unless they reply back with some kind of shit bird comment and think they're smart. In most cases, they aren't. But I think my problem is that I am too honest to the point where I may be considered an egotistical asshole, which is fine by me, but I just wanted a second, third, or majority opinion on this. 1) Am I an egotistical asshole? Probably, but what do you think? 2) Am I too honest, or should I censor myself? 3) Do you think honesty can get you into trouble in the real world? 4) Can you forgive someone for excessively lying?
Honestly definitely has its pro's and con's. It can most certainly get you into trouble in RL, but for myself I would rather be blunt and honest before I sugar coat anything. I don't think you're too honest, nor do I think you should change at all. Come off as an *******? Oh well, who cares.
I've learned from personal experience that it's better to be honest because it's better in the long run. Even if you are blunt, people can handle it. As for the excessive lying thing, I've forgiven someone for that before - we're all human and I guess that person had their reasons. However, since then, I've discovered some more lies that they spouted which kind of sucked. But hey, it's the internet, we can be who we want to be. So yeah, be honest. If you do end up making a BIG boo-boo, own up. And don't do it again.
I would say egotistical just from the standpoint that you are asking for a forum referendum on you... While also setting the parameters based on a priori notions of your self. Blunt honesty is not necessarily honest. A lot of times, it's a show of power. Telling someone your opinion about something someone in a blunt, assertive manner can be less about honesty and more about being RIGHT. That kind of bluntness can close you off from the world and its varieties. It can be a blinding prejudice that tunes out truth. I prefer tact.
To be honest as far as friendship is concerned if you're my friend I want you to be honest, it's one of the traits I look for in a friend. I oddly have tact. I may be blunt and brutally honest but I can hold my tongue on certain occasions. Not necessarily sugar coat...but I definitely say it tactfully. If someone thinks you're an asshole for being truthful well then fuck em' as long as you're also truthful to yourself. I hate when people act like they're so far above everyone else but fail to realize or acknowledge their own flaws.