Im probably going to get some hate for saying this....just because he is only 19 doesn't mean anything necessarily. He might have more life experiences compared to the average 19 year old and be more mature. You don't know his entire situation based on what little information he provided in the first post and such. So take a little time to look past the age before you make some stupid comment. ?
I think the point about the age is to say that he's still young and has time to grow and gain what he truly wants and desires in life once he figures that out.
Things get better especially if you choose to change your attitude on things. Much easier said than done but it's true. When we're young we experience a lot of what reality holds for us for the first time. We aren't used to it and we feel the pain a lot deeper. But then you grow older and start to rationalize what happens and things just feel better. You're gonna have to accept a lot of things you wouldn't want to. And fight to be happy. "Happy" is not a goal you reach, it's just what you get when things go your way. The only way to make it career wise is to just keep doing things even if it doesn't feel right at first. I'm stuck as well trying to get hired properly. It isn't easy but whatever happens, happens. Just remember, tomorrow's always a new day.
Right now just cross suicide off your list because when you leave yeah ppl may cry and stuff for a while and maybe even a lifetime but in the end your the one who is no longer breathing and they go on with life, life is hard but then it gets better your 19 dude why are you putting so much stress on yourself go have fun party and have many girls as someone said on first page we are way to young to just limit ourselves to one girl or something like that you'll be ok just keep trying and maybe you didnt get those jobs because something better is waiting to come along quitters are weak so be strong keep your head up and laugh because it makes everything better
I do feel the insecurity sometimes. And I feel pity for my rl friends for turning to them at time like this. Somehow, I feel better when I tell them tho. Make some rl friend. Cheer up dude.
Are you in college or actively seeking a higher education?? You are still young, there are going to be plenty of job opportunities in the near future. Just be patient and stay focused. Have you looked into seeing a mentor or therapist? They can offer you professional advice and encouragement.
I'm 19 as well and I probably know how you feel.but at the age of 19.there's still things you haven't seen nor do yet. There are experiences you haven't experience yet.there are people you haven't met that could change it all. There's life out there that you haven't seen so don't throw in the towel because of simple things.go enjoy life while you can because one day you'll sit in your rocking chair n think "damn I didn't go"
Well, I don't think you have a problem. You're still a human and you're just being you. I feel you. I'm like that also. I'm 18 y/o. I don't believe in love and always being PRACTICAL. I hate DRAMAS and sometimes it's really hard for me to say SORRY or Thank you. I don't take appreciation. I'm so prideful and I admit that I'm a very bad person but its not to the point that I'll harm someone else. Just like that I don't care of everything or to everyone.
Employers these days want people with experience. They are getting more and more lazy and don't want to give training to people. I applied to jobs for months and got no replies at all. Its just a matter of luck I guess, though if you have plumbing and carpentry, HVAC, and the sorts type of skills, you could probably find a job in that field fairly quick.
Maybe I became like this because of my mom. That feeling, "For all of the people that can hurt me why it's have to be my mom." ----- Yeye, I hate everything in this world because of this feeling. Hahaha.
1. Trust yourself Many young people are getting so much advice from their parents and from their teachers and from everyone. But what is most important is that you have to dig deep down, dig deep down and ask yourselves, who do you want to be? Not what, but who. Figure out for yourselves what makes you happy, no matter how crazy it may sound to other people. 2. Break the Rules Break the rules, not the law, but break the rules. It is impossible to be a maverick or a true original if you’re too well behaved and don’t want to break the rules. You have to think outside the box. That’s what I believe. After all, what is the point of being on this earth if all you want to do is be liked by everyone and avoid trouble? 3. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail Anything I’ve ever attempted, I was always willing to fail. So you can’t always win, but don’t afraid of making decisions. You can’t be paralyzed by fear of failure or you will never push yourself. You keep pushing because you believe in yourself and in your vision and you know that it is the right thing to do, and success will come. So don’t be afraid to fail. 4. Don’t Listen to the Naysayers How many times have you heard that you can’t do this and you can’t do that and it’s never been done before? I love it when someone says that no one has ever done this before, because then when I do it that means that I’m the first one that has done it. So pay no attention to the people that say it can’t be done. I never listen to, “You can’t.” (Applause) I always listen to myself and say, “Yes, you can.” 5. Work Your Butt Off You never want to fail because you didn’t work hard enough. Mohammed Ali, one of my great heroes, had a great line in the ’70s when he was asked, “How many sit-ups do you do?” He said, “I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. When I feel pain, that’s when I start counting, because that’s when it really counts.” That’s what makes you a champion. No pain, no gain. But when you’re out there partying, horsing around, someone out there at the same time is working hard. Someone is getting smarter and someone is winning. Just remember that. Now, if you want to coast through life, don’t pay attention to any of those rules. But if you want to win, there is absolutely no way around hard, hard work. Just remember, you can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets. 6. Give Back Whatever path that you take in your lives, you must always find time to give something back, something back to your community, give something back to your state or to your country. Remember these 6 rules. Trust yourself, break some rules, don’t be afraid to fail, ingore the naysayers, work like hell, and give something back. -Arnold Swartzenegger
You don't need a girl for anything right now unless you want drama, good food, or have a bunch of dirty dishes where you live.
I normally don't write replies to posts like these, cause, well, I couldn't be bothered. But you seem like you need a bandaid. You're wounded. As for your height: weight ratio, it really would be beneficial to hit a gym. At 6feet and 130 pounds, you're below your normal BMI. In fact, I think hitting the gym will be great in the sense you'll put on muscle mass (you mentioned ladies like that), and at the same time release your anger out through weight lifting or cardio. More befits? You'll release happy hormones and you'll have yourself a new hobby instead if dwelling on the negative. Speaking of hobbies, find stuff that interests you. You say you dislike people, perhaps take upon writing. You seem great with words, judging by this posting. Don't like the people around you? Create your own characters. Go online and look up ways to improve yourself into positive thinking. Positivity comes from yourself. Wake up every morning and look in the mirror and day you're worth it. Then prove to yourself why you are. Find a job. But not just a job. Find something you actually like to do, even if the pay is low. Why? It will keep you motivated to get up in the mornings. Cash can't buy happiness anyways, so why depress yourself for it? In terms of girls, you're -19. Not 27, 36, 67.. But 19. You have plenty of time. Relax. Breathe. She will come to you. For example) getting your ass to the gym, you can meet a hottie there. Hope I helped.
You're only 19 years old, you don't have to worry about being in love or being loved (by a girl) yet. Once you get situated, finish college (if you're going) and have a stable job, THEN you can check the ladies out. You don't want to depend on your parents cash or car to visit your gf or go on dates. Remember, girls are expensive .
As someone who has been around for 40+ yrs, let me say this one thing. If u cant love yourself, then no-one else can love you. Real friends are hard to come by, love of a good woman is even harder. Dont give up! EVER! Dont let "him" win. As for your mother, the next time she calls u a failure, look her in the eye & say, either thank you or u did a good job at it mom.
You don't need a girl. You need a job and a career. Once your successful doing something, and get enough cash in the bank, women will seek you out because they only want money or insurance for their kids.