What are your opinions on self harm/suicide? Doing a report for school. Thanks to everyone Who comments!
In my opinion this shouldn't be in forums at all! But if you are thinking if doing it I suggest seeking help it's not a good thing at all!
Its never worth to harm yourself, nor to take ones own life, there is always a solution to your issues, that doesn't require such poor choices of handling a situation or emotions. After all, you may take your own life to end your worries.....but what about all friends and family who have lost a loved one? The actions of one to selfishly heal their problem is hen laid on those close to them, instead maki hit effect more people. There is always people out there to help you, self harm isn't worth it.
This is MY opinion so please, no hate or whatever. Ive been there, the self-harm phase and I am proud to say that Im done cutting and causing physical pain to my being. Self-harm (for me) is a way to cope up with emotional pain. Like, I cut because I was finding a way to hurt myself. I was finding a way to feel a greater pain than the emotional hurt I was feeling to momentarily forget my problems. Its like drawing yout attention to the physical pain I was feeling rather than the heart-aching hurt on my chest. And, I would also like to add that I hate people saying that "You need help," or "That is not the way," because frankly, you dont understand. We aren't mentally ill, its our way of making ourselves numb and all that stuff. Im not encouraging everyone who is cutting to continue what you're doing, there will be that time when you realize that its enough, that this is useless and I should stop. Self-harm is not embarrasing nor ugly but it is alarming. Girls, boys, whatever your reason is to hurt yourself physically, its not worth scarring yourself. Trust me, been there than that. Our skin isn't meant to be scarred or wounded, its meant to be drawn with flowers and daisy chains. If bullying is your reason, then fvck them. You are perfect. If problems are your reason, fvck that problem, it will come and go. If its a hobby or for pleasure, go to the mall or bake cookies. Love is all you need. Love is louder than the pressure to be perfect.
I'm not saying that you are mentally ill but you need help in finding others ways to deal with your problems besides harming yourself, because frankly it isn't healthy at all.
Oh wait wait a second rather you realize it it not self harming yourself is considered a mental disorder but having a mental disorder is in no way bad. Also seeking help for your problems is not bad either I may catch a lot of shit for that but oh well. It's the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.
matter of another personal opinion, i've also been there. Over some serious reasons. I've since then stopped, and havent done anything since 2010. It's not something to brag about, nor to make it a laughing matter. As said previously, people do it for other reasons that they know about, nor want to talk about. Yes, it's a disease, a mental one. Yes, it is very serious. Suicide, is never an answer. Never. People, especially immature people, tend to push people to that dark part of their mind where they think it would make no difference. But if you suspect something of the sort, a smile, a hug, and a reassurance that everythings fine is all one person needs. This has always been a very touchy subject for me, but, that's my opinion. Hope your report goes good.
Anya, self harm is not a mental disorder, it can be a symptom though of other mental disorders (like borderline personality disorder) self harm alone is not considered a personality disorder nor should it be considered one because it's a symptom of a bigger issue. I hurt myself from 8-19. It left lasting scars on me, I'm scarred all over my arms, my shoulders, my breasts, my stomach, my thighs and my legs. For me my self injury wasn't just a release for my emotional pain it was also a form of punishment for being a woman because I thought I was to blame for my rape when I was 6. He told me everything I would get when I hit puberty, I hit puberty at 8... anyways self injury is in no means a helpful way to cope with stress or emotions or whatever. I've been placed in numerous mental hospitals and have been in a residential treatment facility due to my self injury as well as my drug abuse and anorexia. I'm diagnosed currently with body dysmorphic disorder, severe recurrent major depression and post traumatic stress disorder. But those are not a excuse nor a reason for me to sit in my shit. The thing that I needed was to not only realize I wasn't to blame for what had happened in my past but also that I needed to get the fuck over it. There's no sense in dwelling over shit I can't change. All it achieves is just more bullshit. If you're still hurting yourself ask yourself how you would like to still have those scars in 3 years in 5 years in 10 years? I've had men refuse to date me because of my past, my scars make my current boyfriend sad, I used to work in a animal shelter and the kids would always ask me if a cat did that to my arms, and it doesn't look good in jobs in general. My scars have also though made certain individuals come up to me who have children or friends who hurt themselves and ask me how I stopped... I use my past today to help and empower other people and show them they can get over it just like I have. I'm not ashamed by my scars nor am I ashamed of anything in my past, it's made me stronger and better able to help people today. But if I had stayed in that miserable thinking which was my life at that time I would have never been able to have the life I have today. Not saying my life is awesome it kinda sucks...but I don't have to be a victim locked in my past. I was a victim before like you don't know what I've been through you just don't understand. No they didn't understand and no no one has to understand. I had to understand and move through it. What happened to me was not my fault...and I went through more shit as I was growing up. But while my past is not my fault how I chose to use my past today and wether I chose to live in my past today IS my fault. Lots of people have hard lives I don't see them hurting themselves. Because they have better ways of coping... Here's the difference today...recently my first sexual abuser tried to add me on a social website...I don't know if it's against TOU to say so I won't say which, anyways back in the day I would have immediately been in my own shit, cried about how he comes back to haunt my life 20 years later and how miserable my life is because of him. Instead of doing that I laughed, told a few close people, and hit decline. And that was the end of it. I have much healthier ways of dealing with things...I refuse to be a victim of my past and instead a survivor because I have overcome and accomplished so much. No I am not the person I want to be but I'm striving to become that person and that's good enough for me. wow this was long.
I agree with Casey I use to self harm because I was badly bullied to the point where I wanted to die but thank god I never tried actually killing my self I only use to badly hit my self because I hated myself people making fun of my dyslexia, me having glasses, me actually caring about school and doing the work and home work I wanted my physical pain to outweigh my mental pain because mental hurt way more and for you people who don't understand don't judge because you don't know what it's like
Honestly I don't think op is thinking of self harm. People who self harm keep that to themselves just like people who actually want to commit suicide. They don't want to be stopped so they don't share until they are ready for help.
Hmmm Not necessarily true jai. If someone wants help they will seek help. I had a friend who told everyone the day before and the day of that he was going to kill himself. And he did...successfully... Talking about it doesn't mean it's not serious.
You are right, talking about it is a cry for help, I didn't say it wasn't serious. Most people who want to kill themselves and don't want to be save will not speak about it therefor preventing anyone from saving them.
Thet do need help but I hate when someone learned that you are cutting and all they will say is, "You need help." Its obvious that she needs help, but not necessarily by a psychologists. Maybe all she need is a friend, try asking "Why?"and not "That's not good for you," or "You should stop, thats not healthy." Because, hello? We know its wrong and unhealthy and stupid but we do it anyway. We need some that will understand us, that will listen to why we are doing it and that will help us feel better about ourselves without forcing us to a rehabilitation program. Self-harm is not the answer, it's a choice and if you cant respect a person with scars on her wrists, her hips and legs, then respect the person with the internal scar on her heart. A person that commits on scarring herself physically might be going through A LOT to take it to the level of harming herself. These people (including me), we didnt have anyone. I cu t because I thought no one cared and I am better off alone, crying and cutting. Seeking help wasnt my option. I stopped because I it didnt helped me get through. I stopped because someone noticed and talked me out of it. So please, understand.