Why hello there forumers. Today, I want to talk about parents. Just to put you in my context, I recently moved away from my parents to study. And today, after school, I heard some teens whining that their parents always start cleaning the house when they (the teens) sleep. So I decided to listen at their conversation before stepping in. It's not the first time I am witnessing this, and I once did it too. But now that I am on my own, I realize how much my parents loved me, and how ungrateful I was. Now I will take some of the points brought up by the two teens I talked to today, and explain why they are being some little princesses. My parents hate me. They want me to be their slave. They even want me to respect an idiot curfew. My answer to that is simple. Teens, you are far from being slave. There are some cases of near slavery, but these are extreme cases, and that's far from what you, regular teens, live. Your parents do not come up with a curfew idea because they want to make sure you're home when it's time to do the chores (if you even have chores). Your parents want you to be home in time to keep up with a healthy lifestyle. They want you to eat, sleep, and do whatever you must do, in order to keep a normal life schedule. My parents think I'm their little doll. They always want me to do the sports they choose, study what they want me to study, and do whatever they ask. Again my answer is simple. If they don't guide you, you won't study, you won't move, and you'll only waste your life. Someone who can succeed at school without studying is rare. While it is true that you should choose your own sports, your parents only want to help you find a sport that correspond with what they know of you. My parents always make me do boring chores and they don't pay me. Your parents also let you live in their house, and you don't have to pay. You wear the clothes they bought, you eat the food they pay, and what they cook, you have nearly everything you want just by asking, so the least you can do to show them you are grateful is to help them with the chores around the house. You might also try to talk with them, it's more interesting than what you think. My parents always start cleaning the house with their loud vacuum when I'm sleeping. Why don't you propose them to wait until you are up so you can clean the house for them? What? It's not your house so you shouldn't clean it? Well you're not the one cleaning so don't whine, at least someone does it and you don't live in a some disgusting dirty place. My parents always want me to do things with them. I have friends too. Look, in average, raising a kid costs about $10'000 per year. 18 years is $180'000, 21 years is $210'000. It is normal that they would like to know you better. They are attached to you, and they are afraid that they are not present enough in your life. Your parents won't live forever, and they want to pass time with you before they go. Your friends can be replaced, and if they don't want to talk to you because you spend, let's say, 2 hours with your parents every week, you should definitely change friends. Your parents will always be there when you need them, not your friends. I hope that I will open the eyes of some people who think they're parents are their enemies. And if I didn't open your eyes, you will meet up with the hard reality of living alone when you will have your own house or apartment far from your parents. -Pope is out-
I was wondering where this might have gone but seeing the direction you took it has earned my respect. I would have answered them all the same. I'm in college and I've been attending for my 3rd year now, after living this lifestyle I've noticed all the small things they do in their day. Appeciate your parents, every little positive thing, it means they care.
Completely disagree with your stance on whether a parent should have a right to choose what a kid does (sports/classes/etc...). It's their job to guide a kid, keep them on track, not make all their choices for them, and would probably result in the child disliking his/her parents. Not only that, but it isn't necessary. For some special cases, sure. But if you're planning to do something with your life, you'll try to succeed. If you don't plan to, then you wouldn't even if your parents intervened.
I agree w/ most of this. However 10k a yr is lowballin it. This yr isnt close to over and I have spent that and then some in each of my kids. But kuddos for pointing out parents just what the best for our kids. We didnt get a handbook when our kids were born. We'll make mistakes, but the goal is always for our kids to be better than we ourselves areare.
Who is to say we all did not about a few things but some people do not now. I know I used to complain until I got older. That though doesn't mean you should still be complaining when young, teen, etc.
At the beginning of the thread, I say I used to whine about this too. I am not excluding myself of that kind of teens. And 10K a year per kid is a statistic that counts food, clothes, furnitures, school, sports, and other activities.
And Royale, I pretty much said the same thing as you did. But maybe I worded it wrong. Let me show it from a different angle... Some kids/teens claim that their parents force them to do some activities, but it often isn't the case. Most of the time, the parents are just trying to give an idea that might correspond to what they know of their kid, without forcing them, but the kid thinks that they are obliged to do that very activity.