When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps you were criticized about something, your friend sabotaged your or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance — but if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to: Healthier relationships Greater spiritual and psychological well-being Less anxiety, stress and hostility Lower blood pressure Fewer symptoms of depression Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse
The real power of respect isn't earned by fear, but it is earned by love. A king who sentences his subject to death as an example will be feared, but endangered by a revolution due to hatred caused by fear. A king who forgives when a peasant is in the wrong will be loved, and his subjects will support him. That king who forgives will reign even after his death.
Sooo....What I'm getting from your post is..... Rape victims should forgive their rapists? Murder victims should forgive the murderers for taking the life of one their loved ones? Perhaps forgiveness works best in intrapersonal relationships, but I sincerely and highly doubt that logic works worldwide on a global scale. That palette that you're painting? Doesn't appease everyone's soul for whatever it's hungry for. Sometimes a life for a life is the only way to unlock healing, and not forgiving would be the best option rather than forgiving and allowing the person who fucked you over to use the same bullet twice.
Des123 as one who have worked with victims of sexual assault knows that as long as they hold onto the horrible act caused to them it'll be hard for them to move forward with their life. As long as the grudge is held, the more control the guilty party have on one. When one make the decision to forgive, they are in a sense taking control of their life back. With that brings positive relationships and one can start putting the pieces of their life back together.
Please reread the 4th paragraph. I don't think you read my post in full before immediately attacking what I said. Anyway, it was posted as information to a healthier living if one desires. Just know that when I speak about things of serious magnitude, I'm speaking from life experiences Hopefully this helps someone. One changed life perspective is good enough for me. Take care all