I do not believe the government should have any say in the way I choose to discipline my children. It was not the government who impregnated me, and it sure as hell wasn't the government who went through labor to have my two beautiful offspring. Lack of discipline is a direct cause of juvenile delinquency, in my opinion. It is a main reason why we have 10 year olds on the Internet screaming curse words and racial slurs, and why we have 14 year olds showing themselves unclothed in cell phone pictures. 50 years ago, if you did half of the things kids in today's society are allowed to do, you better believe you would have gotten your ass beat. Was it the appropriate thing to do? Maybe not, but so far it created far more decent, responsible citizens than what many are trying to do now.
Would the way children are today have anything to do with parents today though? It's not all about a good ol' fashioned ass whooping all the time. Parents are gone all the time now for work. Sometimes working from sun up until sun down, working two jobs, or hell with technology today have their noses shoved in their laptops or phones working when they are home. I was never spanked as a child, yet I grew up to be a productive member of society with goals and responsibilities. Back in the day mom was home 24/7 there was always someone there to keep an eye on Johnny and Jill. Comparing the days of yesterday and how it is today is comparing apples and oranges.
In the great State of Texas, 10 year olds are being arrested and sentenced to juvenile detention. Maybe if the kid was disciplined he wouldn't have a record at 10 or maybe not. Where do you draw the line?
When I was growing up my parents rarely spanked me. Well lets just say I had a baby at 15, I did alot of drugs, I smoke cigarettes daily and drink on the weekends. I ended up in jail for fighting when I was 18 and now I'm getting divorced after 4 years of marriage and two kids later. I wished my mom would've spanked me more. Do I spank my kids? HELL YEAH! My girls are 3 and 7 and I will whoop their butts until they do as they are told and stay out of trouble! They learn much better through spankings than yet do through these bullshit time outs or stern talkings. When I take my children into public such as restaurants grocery stores ect they aren't the ones screaming for candy and throwing fits or being put on child leashes because I have instilled discipline and respect in my girls. MOST parents these days SUCK! Fathers walk out, mothers screw around, and I've seen so many only care about themselves rather than their kids. I vowed I'd put my children first in hopes they don't turn out with the same hard life I've made for myself. I'm not saying I don't love my girls with all I have, I'm simply saying I don't want them to be parents at young ages or go to jail for stupidity. just my two cents
It's also all about the temperament of the child though too. I don't spank my daughter and aside from the normal 6 year old ways she respectful and responsible, Does chores, helps me around the house, and is never a problem in stores. There are too many factors coming in to play when it comes to stuff like this.
I personally don't think u need to hit your children. There are many over successful discipline methods where hitting is not used. I feel your being hypocritical hitting your child whilst teaching them that hitting is wrong but I wouldn't tell others how to discipline there child this is just my personal opinion
Most people in today's society are just having kids for the welfare and benefits of it. They don't care if there kids are unruly as long as they sit down and watch cartoons on tv. We have so called parents come into where I work 30 degrees and the kids have no coats but OMG the parents have there coats on. It's all these babies have babies. All they care about is getting free money just because they have kids. Then all they do is buy junk food and pop and wonder why there children is so hyper then tell them to calm down or they'll get in trouble. Good thread simp
Corporal punishment should be a part of your own households as long as you know where to stop. I was spanked as a child and so were my brother and sister. I turned out to become a fairly productive person, went into the military out of high school, had jobs that I loved and held them for years before moving on. My sister, also spanked, went on to photojournalism, worked for the local newspaper taking pics, and moved on from there to another editorial. My brother, spanked most because he acted out a lot as a kid, went on to drop out of high school, do drugs, drink excessively, steal, and get arrested many times. My point is simple, spanking doesn't mean that you are an evil person, it doesn't guarantee that your kids will come out better for it, and it doesn't mean that you will solve all of the problems with it. All it means is that you choose corporal punishment instead of a less aggressive one. It's all in how you raise your kids as a parent as to how they turn out. Teach them core values that last until they are adults and teach them to set long term goals instead if wanting the instant gratification. No matter how bad of a day you are having, make time to play dress up with your daughter or cowboys and Indians with your son. Smile when they smile at you and if you're lucky, you may just be able to have a little bit of heaven in your home that you'll be able to take with you everywhere you go.
I wasn't spanked when I was a child some odd "cough" lol number of years ago, and I grew to be a successful woman. I've never been arrested or used drugs. However, it was understood that if I screwed up, it'd be highly likely that I'd get hemmed up.
Obviously how parents raise them have a lot to do. Not just spanking them. I had a friend, my cousin got her pregnant. She had her daughter and left my cousin. Every weekend on facebook I'd see her uploading photos where she wpuld go out getting drunk with her friends and shit. And her pictures? All showing tits and ass. She's like 19 right now and her daughter's like 3 or 4. It's teen moms like those that are fucking up the kids. They dont give a fuck about them cuz #YOLOSWAGLOL and shit like that. Being a good parent isnt just teaching them discipline. Shit. I'd smack the shit out of that bitch if she didnt have so many gangster friends. lol
Many parents ask me daily how to discipline their kids, and I always tell them to review the laws because people are going to jail behind spankings. I also advise that if spanking not working then try something else. Sometimes parents discipline how they were disciplined. That doesn't always work and can lead to serious issues and may cause legal woes. Example: this dude said his dad use to slap and hit him in the chest to toughen him up. Well he decided to do the same to his son. One hard hit to his son's chest caused his son's his young life and him his freedom.