Ok Vasto, so you think nothing should be done and that it's completely a-ok for him to be hitting his pregnant girlfriend? If you do, I suggest a therapist.
As long as you guys are only hearing her side of the story I don't think you guys can talk about how bad the father is
People can lie you know, to get attention. I can say my dog bit me and now I have no arm and I can imagine you guys would feel bad for me. Don't take sides until you hear both
Doesn't matter, Sweetheart. If she's lying, then that's on her lying ass head. Either way, it's legit advice for the situation.
Wow I am completely shocked by some of the responses here. It doesnt matter how old she is. She is pregnant and asking for advice from other moms. She did asked to be judged or be told maybe she should abort her child. Sweetheart its just that, threats. He sounds controlling and like he gets angry when he doesnt get his way. He knows this is what is going to hurt you and hes saying it to try to have control over you. If he cant prove that you are an unfit mom, he does not stand much of a chance to get custody. If he has been abusive towards you, he may have a hard time though getting any kind of custody and visitation. Just take care of yourself and your baby. It is probably best to attain legal counsel though. It couldn't hurt only help. Stay away from his mother and dont have contact with her. You also need to quit having contact with him until you get a lawyer or go to court. I wish the best for you and your baby. If you would like to talk feel free to follow me. For people who have nothing nice to say, just dont comment. It's pretty easy.
How do you upload pics? I will upload the pictures of all the marks. I wouldn't lie on him. Not when he could get jail time for attempted murder (they do, do that to & if you can prove that yu had a miscarriage as a result they can press murder charges) here goes the story i got up and came back to the room; he starts calling me a bitch because me getting up woke him up and he had wrk in the morning- im like ok whatever srry so he starts pushing my face in the mattress so i couldnt breathe- when he finally gets off me i move closer to the edge- he says come here I'm like no not after that so then he starts chokin me except hes on my back (i was laying on my tummy had just found out at this point) and he puts his arm under & around my neck pulling upwards to choke me. I start scratching at whatever i can to get him off of me and then he starts to bite me. 3 times. I was black and blue. I won't lie and say I don't love him because I do. And I'm not going to press charges. My dad was always in jail as i was growing up & never really in my life. I don't want that for my child. I don't know if I will ever stop caring him. He is the baby's father. Omg my aunt is funny! Lol. Sorry she was telling me about a dream. Lol. Now what was I saying? Oh yeah, I'm all for him being in his childs life. I told him I think we need a break and told him we don't have to be together because we're having a child. Just I want him to be there for the baby no matter what happens us. I told him to call me tomorrow. For those of you that think there is no way I can love him after 10 months; when its good its great. The best. He can make me feel like a million dollars. That feeling you get when you get a check after being broke for so long. Lol. Then he can make you feel low. Like your not worth it. I don't know.
Sweetie, what would you rather? Him being in jail and not being able to abuse your son or daughter, or him teaching that child that its ok to hit and try to kill people when he/she doesn't get his or her way. Cold hard truth time. If you look into the family life of 99% of serial killers, you'll see they had some sort of abuse, whether it be emotional, mental, physical or sexual. Abuse screws up the mind. Do you want your child around someone that could potentially cause them to go on a killing spree or even kill themselves because their self is so shot they don't think they're worthy to live???? THAT'S what you and your child COULD ( not saying 100% guaranteed) possible be looking at. I'd rather my kids grow up with their father in jail than let him hit my kids. Mess with me all you want, mess with my kids and I'll make the apocalypse look tame. And just a little info. If one of your friends, family, co workers, or your child's teacher or doctor(drs and teachers are bound by law to report even a suspicion of abuse) notices marks on you ( from him)and reports it to the police, they can and will remove your child from y'all's custody. This happened to my own mother with me and sisters so I know how CPS/ DHS works.
He can't just take the baby from you. It would be unusual for a court to take the baby away from its mother. I'd start a diary of all the threats he makes against you in case it comes to a custody battle. Don't stress during pregnancy, it's bad for the baby.
I couldn't even go pass page 2 when Spike or whatever said the words of abortion. I knew it would be mentioned by the end of page 1 but just wow.. Abortion ends a life, no matter how much you twist it around. I'm glad you chose life OP. It's a hard road to walk in but it's worth while. It'll change you.
Brittani8 had some valid points. Yeah, having a father in prison might be tough, but it is a much better scenario versus the one in which your child gets abused or watches his mother get abused. Domestic violence is serious. Guess what, hon, you said exactly what all victims of domestic violence say: "oh, but I love him!" Love is not enough. He loves himself and getting his way more than he loves you. And abusing you after he finds out you're pregnant just shows his disregard for your child and human life. If you love yourself and your child, you'll do what's best for both of you. Honestly, it doesn't seem like your kid is going to miss out on much if his/her dad is in jail.
Honey. Get off pimd and call the Domestic abuse hotline or find your local women's shelter. They will give you legal advise as well as emotional support. No one here can help you. Be proactive and take action. If u need help finding the domestic abuse hotline or your local women's shelter, follow and pm me and we will find the number for u together.
Let them know the deal put ur foot down! Im 19 and preg and i let my bf know im not dealing with the fam bs or exs or nun of tht its mine and ur family or kiss us goodbye yea its gonna be hard but its wht needs to be done. And to all yu sayn she shouldnt have ACCIDENTS HAPPEN its life shes grown now.. but really put the foot down follow me if yu wanna chat sometime
I'm a father. At nineteen years old. When my girlfriend found out that she was pregnant, I was terrified. My first instinct was to run from the situation. So I did. I didn't get anywhere except an overdose and an IV in my arm. I grew up without a father. Why? Because the sorry SOB was clinically insane and abusive towards my mother, so she reached out for help and got out of that unhealthy relationship and vicious environment. I spent 72 hours laid up in the hospital because I didn't want to accept the responsibility of caring for the innocent child I helped create. My girlfriend, pregnant and barely coping with the reality herself, didn't leave my side, even though I was quick to jump on the runaway train. "Its us or your addiction." Those five words rolled from her tongue and from that second, and still counting, Ive changed MY lifestyle so that my beautiful daughter has a mom and dad, rather than a life like the one I grew up knowing. I work 50+ hours a week at a factory, my girlfriend is in high school and is working toward a diploma, our daughter Delilah was born August 21st and is the light of my world. My five month anniversary with sobriety is December 10th. I cater to my daughter's needs, my girlfriend's needs and wants, and public assisstance (food stamps, welfare, medical cards, etc) is non existant in our lives, with the WIC program being the ONLY exception to that rule.
I'm speechless by some comments. I agree with many here especially SMDelight. I see this type of stuff daily. It's not healthy
im 19 and a mother to a one year old, ive been through exactly the same.until one day id had enough of everyone his.mum included. They have even tried taking her away from me by calling social services and trying to get it my home so i rang the police and decided to work with social instead of thinking of them ae the enemy. Trust me its hard at first but you get there In time and the authorities also help u with the custody battle as long as you work with them fully. Hes not worth your time sweetie put yourself and child first xxx