You ever just like date someone horrible as hecc, like they would punch the fridge and break their ring finger knuckle because they were mad at you because they lost their cat? No, just me? I have a habit of dating horrible ppl who don't like me but who are scared of being alone because we both have childhood trauma. Don't be that person. It will affect your future relationships and you're better than being someone's "for now." Thank you for coming to my tedtalk. In spite of my well-known sexuality, I think it applies to dating men, too. Love yourself. Thank you.
Nope never dated someone horrible first sign of disrespect im out if they don't respect you they probably don't love you someone punch my fridge witout my permission im out of that shit they do it once they'll do it again people will get away with what you let them get away hold them accountable no excuses and if they keep doing it leave that shit ive learned that most people will tolerate abuse from people others if they abuse themselves in the first place if you think you're trash unworthy of love you'll stay in a relationship with someone that treats you like trash simply because you think no one else will ever be wit you like they will like the op said it's about loving yourself but more than that it's about digging within yourself and trashing any bad core beliefs you have self hatred self acceptance lack or respect and responsibility for yourself all that shit it isn't as easy as it sounds but doable
I hear ya. My ex punched my windshield while I was driving and cracked it from one side to the other. These people really don't change and it's not worth the heartache of trying tbh. I'm sorry if this is something you're going through currently 🤧💖
That sounds horrendous. Whenever my bestie drops the piece of trash she's still currently dating I'll hook y'all up. She's a catch, you'll like her.
Unfortunately my most solid social circles don't include many women, and I feel awkward about asking my coworkers out. I think I have to try dating many strangers to find a decent life partner.
It's such a long process tho and it wears me out. I was being overly dramatic when I wrote the thread but I am taking a huge break from dating because everyone I've been with has been of the using me variety which usually means I'm doing smthing to attract that. I wish you luck
O ofc ofc. But yeah, I think it's just in the vetting process, but then maybe also in the setting the tone and standing your ground stage. Look for signs of their values and try to look at peoples' power dynamics in certain situations. Admitting, apologizing, bowing, moving out of the way because it's polite, offering seats, etc. can be ways that you subtly undermine yourself. Not sure what's up but I've been focusing on that a bit myself as a polite guy. I'm working on being a bit more prickly because that ability to choose my behaviours, helps. And that applies to other peoples' mental health or behaviours. If I see any bullshit, I put it on notice.
I can count on both hands how many times I've been able to just use a hand 😀 I have reoccurring tendonitis in my wrist and require a vibrator 💔
Was that the one where I spoke about vibrators harming the clit nerves? Still valid but I shall use them nonetheless