Do you think it is possible for someone to actually do something that is completely selfless? Or to be kind just for the sake of being kind? Personally, I do not. I'm not saying it's always virtue signaling 100% of the time but I do think it has to benefit them in some way, even if it's just something like someone volunteers at a soup kitchen because they don't like spending all their time at home alone. Not a bad thing but I do think it's a thing. Do you agree/disagree and why?
I feel like this question is based on the assumption that you can do something completely separate without any repercussions at all, which is not the way the world works. Everything is linked, and everything will always have an affect on something else. The fact of that knowledge means that surely it’s physically impossible to think that you can do something purely selfishly, even if you don’t think it at that particular time, it’s still there, it’s the way the human mind is programmed.
I agree w potato. As much as we'd like for people to serve each other, at the end of the day we're all flawed to some extent and have needs. With that being said, I think there should be a good balance with selflessness and selfishness that is practiced in order to live a good and fulfilling life. 🙄 I'll stop bc I'll keep on rambling.
I’m not sure about that last bit though, because surely selflessness is doing something for someone else’s benefit... in effect... but inevitably that will make someone else lose out, so you’re not actually being “selfless” in the eyes of someone else. The best option is to be very critical and look at options 🤷🏼♀️
Bold of you to assume I feel good about myself. Nah I just do it to make ppl's days better. It's just whatever to me
I disagree w Oni that it's always ppl doing something to feel good about themselves. I think there are multiple reasons why ppl might do things but they all ultimately benefit the person in some way. For example: say a person pays for college tuition of their sibling or something. Seems very selfless but for some ppl the alternative of watching their sibling struggle with debt would've been too mentally painful for them so they avoid that pain by placing themselves in a lesser pain of having to carry a financial burden. It helps the sibling but it's still ultimately for the person doing it. Likewise, ppl on pimd who compliment their frens selfies and send gifts and stuff. It feels nice in our brain chemicals knowing people we like are happy with us which is ultimately why we do nice things for them. Is how I view it, anyway.
Well, I'll be honest I skimmed thru the post something IDK if this applies, but like for example, if I'm at the grocery store and walk out and see someone struggling to put shit away in their car, I'll ask if I can help them. I can easily walk past them as I've done before so there's no like, feeling of remorse or something if I dont help them. But sometimes I randomly do. Small stuff like that. I couldn't care less if other people are struggling but if I can help out a little to make their day, then I sometimes will
I think there could be selfless people but they change because of situations. And or the experiences they have through their lives. I mean there could be humans who are naturally selfless but they get treated wrong. I consider myself selfish. Put myself first. But I can be kind and helpful. But learned that not everyone will remember the good deeds..instead they’ll remember the worst of a person. Not everyone is good as they appear to be? I might took a left turn there. Anyways. My opinion :v A person who I could say is selfless towards (me) is my mother.
I understand a lot of parents do a lot of things for their children and sacrifice a lot but I think especially involving family, everything done is very self-motivated. Parents often view their kids as an extension of themselves. I think a lot of people equate the word "selfish" with a negative connotation. It's totally normal and okay to be selfish. There are instances where people can be both selfish and horrible but in general most selfish acts don't harm others in any large way that we need to feel guilty for.
I’m gunna follow the last bit of that, I don’t think people remember the bad things. For example, I’ll be at a pub with my friends and be talking about a new person I met, I would probably start with a negative, from a distance that may seem like it is remembering the bad things, but in my mind, that’s the start of a conversation, you can’t find the good parts of someone without understanding the bad 🤷🏼♀️
I agree kind of. I also think it depends on where a person is in their state of remembering someone. One of my friends, for example, had a terrible falling out when she tried to have two roommates for a bit. For almost three years she talked constant shit, everything bad that ever happened was all their fault and she hated them. Then a few months ago she's like 'actually I did jello shots off so-and-so's bf's stomach which probs explains why she stopped being nice to me' and now she misses their friendship. And then there's the reverse where you have rose-tinted glasses and just completely forget about all the bad things and over-idealize people/relationships.
A lot of my friends are musicians, and it seems to me that that (^) impacts me a lot less, not many of my friends keep a grudge for long, I guess that’s because it’s not really an option as obviously, if someone hates you you won’t get a job from them, so yes you bitch a bit, but you try and keep on everyone’s good side, it’s quite refreshing for me
Literally everything about that story was a plot-twist for me. The whole time she painted them so poorly and i believed her so when she finally admitted that she did some stuff, too, it was kind of hilarious how it was almost entirely her fault (altho they handled it poorly and kinda ganged up on her rather than discussing her less than savoury behavior).