I just found out my nephew was kidnapped by his mother and they fled the country to Ethiopia to get away from my brother. So, anyway. Do you think some people are cursed? My brother leads one of the most dramatic lives I've ever heard of. Him and one of my ex girlfriends have led lives that sound like the storyline to some very long thriller/horror movie and idk what tf they're doing to cause it. So I have come to the conclusion that they are cursed. Or maybe were very horrible in a past life idk. If I seem like I'm being cavalier about all this it's because I'm not worried for my nephew's safety, his mom won't let anything happen to him. It just sucks for my brother. Thoughts/opinions? Do you know people who just seem like every horrible thing possible happens to them? I feel insanely boring when I talk to my brother and ex but am also kind of okay w that cuz their problems are messy.
I think that people put out and accept different energies in in their lives. People who lead crazy lives accept the people and circumstances that put them in those circumstances. I don't think it's from a past life, but a cumulation of choices made in the past of their current life.
True. Idk my brother is very nice person so I usually assume he makes good decisions. I'd feel horrible telling him I thought it was his fault his kid got kidnapped, though, so that's probs why my mind didn't go there.
Sometimes, the nicest people get taken advantage of the most. They can be making what they feel are the best decisions, but not properly analyzing another person's true intentions or nature. Sometimes, good natured people assume others are just as honest and trustworthy, when they shouldn't. Yeah, I wouldn't be able to tell someone I thought something like that was there fault. It wouldn't do anything but make them hurt more anyway. It's not really his fault anyway, it's hers. He just, got in it with the wrong person. The situation honestly sounds terrible. I wish the best for your brother.
Doubtful. She kidnapped your nephew and fled the country ー not just to get away from your brother, but also to get away from authorities. I bet that Ethiopia and Canada do not have an extradition treaty. If she didn't have custody of her child, it was probably for a very good reason, since most times the mother is favored over the father in custody disputes. I bet she knows very little about Ethiopia and is not prepared to completely reset her life in another continent, especially in a developing nation.
The mother could have majority custody with clauses on how often the father has rights to see the child, or even how far away she's allowed to move or take him.
...hmmmm how do I say this nicely? Nobody's cursed, sometimes people are stupid though. And the thing about being stupid is you're often to stupid to realize you're being stupid. That's why some people's lives are complete shït shows. They don't take personal responsibility for their own actions. It's not your brothers fault his ex ran off with your nephew BUT he did make a stupid decision. You see, anyone who would take their child to a third world country is crazy...and your brother's stupid move was definitely sticking his dïck in crazy.
She was actually born in Ethiopia. She moved to Canada when she was 16. There isn't a Canadian embassy or smthing there which is why my brother can't get him back and partially why she chose to go there (also all her family is there) and my brother did win custody but it was for separate reasons that didn't have anything to do w her being an unfit parent and more her to do w her legality as a citizen and some of the jobs she was working because she couldn't get a legal job. She's a good mother, just a shitty person in every other way.
She mostly has her interests at heart which is why she made the decision but I still don't envision her ever letting anything happen to him. She's super mama bear-type
I like the good mother part. I unlike for the shitty person and inability/unwillingness to get her papers and citizenship documents in order to become legal.
Oh, that makes a bit more sense. I definitely do feel for her, but I can't help but be shocked that she would kidnap her own child. Then again, I am not a mother myself (and do not wish to be) so I cannot really relate to the mother-to-child bond. I can't help but think there could have been better avenues to figure the custody and legality situation out, but I am not of course privy to their lives or the judicial system in Canada.
There are definitely better routes she could have taken but idk what's going on in her head. I have very mixed feelings about the situation and am just trying to be as sympathetic to my brother as possible.
I'm a mom, I can answer the first part. A mother does what's best for her child even when it's hard or inconvenient for herself. It's very selfish to do otherwise. Obviously taking your kid to a third world country isn't what's best. Here's the question I have though...how do you take a minor that you don't have sole custody of on an international flight? How does that happen? I feel like your brother should be exploring that question...with a lawyer perhaps.
I have no clue and am very curious as well. She was involved with some weird ppl who may have helped her while she was in Canada but idk for sure(she made most of her money from selling drugs and other under the table work). My brother got the police involved but because they're in Ethiopa (a country that won't cooperate w Canada regarding the law or p much anything) there's nothing they can really do. They said if she steps even a foot out of Ethiopia, she'll be in jail but rn they can't get to her or my nephew. I'm not sure what a lawyer could do unless you meant my brother suing airlines or something?
Now I feel guilty for laughing at this situation but the idea of us sending ppl to kidnap my nephew back is amusing to me. You might be going somewhere w the suing idea tho. Or something, someone somewhere in this chain of events needs to be reprimanded. I shall mention it.