I Need Help

Discussion in 'Off Topic' started by JoyBoy, Aug 22, 2019.

  1. Well it's how I earn my keep around the place since I dont work, and I have a terrible track record with jobs too whether its stress that initiates it or my Bipolar depression never fails to make me have a mental breakdown within 3 months
    Service is absolute trash where I'm currently at and I dont have the patience to wait 3 hours to watch a 30 min anime, but I did start to get into food wars
     
  2. You should get a job and go to therapy. I have bipolar disorder, and it has been managed for several years. My current job I have worked at for 3 years. I would not have been able to do that w/o seeking consistent professional help.

    You appear to have an issue with making excuses for yourself. Every advice given to you is met with a "yeah, but"... why ask for advice if you're going to rebut it all?
     
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  3. Brotha, you’ve got one life and your mental illness shouldn’t define who you are. Get some professional help cus this thread is gonna keep going in circles. Best of luck
     
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  4. Oh I know I do, it's one of my major issues but again therapists dont help I've tried just about everything
     
  5. Yet another excuse. You're supposed to KEEP trying. Are you putting in the proper amount of effort for things to actually work or are you half-assing it? Something tells me that you're probably half-assing it.
     
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  6. Well I have an appointment with a therapist on tuesday, and they have a partnership with a psychologist that's near them if they find it necessary to get me on some meds
     
  7. Recognizing that there is a problem and acknowledging your feelings is a good start. I think it's wonderful that you were able to post this and start the conversation for yourself. It may not have been the best place, but I get it if it's where you are most comfortable stating your feelings at the moment. The next step would be to actively work on these problems for yourself. As mentioned, therapy is an option. I myself enjoy yoga and meditation as a way to reflect inward, and I enjoy reading about human psychology as a way to better understand myself and others. Everyone has their own demons to face, it's just a matter of whether you are going to face them or stick your head in the sand like an ostrich. My approach may not be the one that works for you, just like, for me, medicine was not the answer. I wish you the best and hope you find the outlets and support you need.
     
  8. Good luck.
     
  9. I’ll start off by saying I have never experienced depression, so I can probably never fully understand it. However, when I am not feeling so good because a person has hurt me, I try to remember...

    No matter how special another person is to me or how close to my heart I let them get...
    To never let them be in control of my happiness.

    I hope that you can find some hobbies or goals in this life that you enjoy to pursue that no one else can take from you.

    Sometimes when people do us wrong, or disappear from our lives for whatever reason, it’s ok to mourn our losses a little, but then we should to rebuild ourselves, or simply remember who we were in the first place before they arrived in our lives.

    I am sorry that these things happened to you. I genuinely wish you the best.🤗
     
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  10. Get a job is step number one. Everyone who just stays home is depressed. Your only company is a child, it's similar to what mothers experience after they first quit work to go on maternity leave. They all go through serious depression from the isolation and lack of doing things. Even if you only get a part-time job, it's still doing something. Apply to restaurants for kitchen positions, even if it's just a dishwasher. They usually don't care about social skills and if they like you there's upward mobility, you could end up learning prep or line or smthing. I am one of the most unfriendly people when I'm sober, I've never had issues getting a kitchen job.
     
  11. You dont think I dont want a job, between the agreement I have with my brother and wife, I stay home with the baby while they work, that's what I'm doing, they both work in the same place so they both get a ride from her mom because we dont have a car 🤷‍♂️
     
  12. Their baby is their responsibility, though. You shouldn't be sacrificing your mental health and creating huge gaps in your resume for them. Just my 2 cents tho
     
  13. I'm basically an Au Pair, except I get paid with food and a roof over my head
     
  14. You need to go on strike; those are less than the bare minimum of benefits. :.p
     
  15. Yeah, live-in nannies get paid in addition to free room and board.
     
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  16. Oh well if I went on strike I'd be fired and kicked out, I have no money saved up cause well I dont make any
     
  17. No offense but your family is def taking advantage of you and you're allowing it.
     
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  18. I have nowhere else to go, it's either deal with it or live on the streets, I'd definitely rather take this than the streets
     
  19. Jeez, no wonder therapy doesn't work for you. You ain't even trying. It's like talking to a brick wall. You're digging yourself into a grave.
     
  20. If they would actually throw you out for looking for a job (something I find difficult to believe since they're letting you stay there anyway, and you don't technically need to tell them that you're looking for a job) you could look into government assistance programs.
     
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