OK. Trolls. #1 hush. OK so group opinion plz. And plz don't point out typos or my mothering. I know u will but whatever. Just coming here for an abstract POV. My son is small for his age. Very emotional and sensitive. He is a target of bullies. OK. So shared. Look. I just want to know how and why you all have dealt. Healthy or otherwise.
How old is he? I think there are different ways to deal with it depending on if he's a kid or a teen because teens tend to be harder on themselves. But it's also harder to handle teen bullying because no matter how awful it is, it isn't going away. Kids are going to be cruel and the only thing you can do as a parent is be there for him and support him. I would say get the school involved, but most of the time that tends to single the kid out even more and cause more damage in the long run. edit: wow I've never been that serious in my life
Enroll your kid in fighting classes, have him learn karate or something. Honestly, I used to bully the bullies. I was dat kid who would look fo the funk. If your kid isn't scrawny or a punk, have him punch the bullies. Snitching to the school is never effective. He's going to have to whoop one of their asses to gain respect. School is like a food chain, and the weak are always preyed on.
Ooo that's a tricky age, but I'm assuming he hasn't hit puberty yet which means he has time to grow and catch up with his classmates. For now, since he isn't in high school yet I'd say notify his teachers. Tell them not make it a big ordeal so he isn't embarrassed, but ask them to keep an eye on him for any bullying so they can report it and possibly get the bullies reprimanded. But of course still be there for him and let him know he can always come to you. Edit: Chocolate is also right. There's nothing wrong with your kid knowing how to defend himself if it comes down to it.
If someone hit me in my head, where they stand is where that would lay and Ion't discriminate when it comes down to it either.
Gotta agree with Chocolate on this. Enrolling your kid in a class where he can learn to defend himself is the most effective way to actually get a bully off him. There's been videos where kids have been bullied but fight back because they took classes. One of my favorites was where one almost did a flying arm and he did it so smoothly.
Yes it does. But as long as he knows the basics, he should be fine. I'm pretty sure he won't be taught advanced stuff til he's older and more mature anyway.
I was bullied literally because of my skin color around that age by these three boys. They'd put spitwads in my hood on rainy days and call me the N word on the bus and stereotypical "ghetto" names during classes we had with each other. I was assigned to sit next all of them in front of the teacher. They'd still do it and the teacher would be oblivious to it. I stayed quiet about it because I was terrified and I hoped they'd just stop. It didn't help that around that time, I almost lost my father in a way I'd never wish upon someone else. My friend witnessed what they'd do and say to me and told my teacher, but all the teacher did was spread out all of us and it didn't really help, because I had them in an another class. It didn't stop until the next year when they all transfered to different schools. I regret how I handled the entire situation. I'd say to have their school on notice but they might not really do anything about it or as Amino said, it may single out your son. If it gets too much for the both of you to handle, I'd say maybe transfer him to another school. Learning self defense is also a good idea, I agree with Chocolate
I'm 18. I know what kids are going through at his age and during this time period. The most important thing is confidence. Which clearly your son lacks but almost every kid does at his age. 12 is a tricky age. It sucks. Middle school sucks. Especially when you're mature beyond your years and don't participate in the stupid bs that kids your age care about e.g. bullying, how others dress, who has the best gadgets, etc. Most kids at that age are becoming aware of the opposite gender and what not so they are caring about who wears what and how to make themselves look tough and cool. Honestly, once I realize that none of that mattered and as long as everyone else knew I didn't give two hoots about their nonsense, the bullying and self esteem issues faded. (1/2)
Yo honestly wtf I lost the other half of my msg Whatever, basically just communicate with your kid a lot. If they're physically bullying him, get involved and make sure the school knows. Support him and make sure he knows those kids have no right to bring him down like that.